So ...... husband and I have spent the past 23 years raising our kids. difficult child has lived on her own for a few years and easy child is still at home, about to graduate from Nursing school. We are "empty-nesters" about 50% of the time, so we have started branching out a bit and taking time for ourselves. The rest of the time, we are home and watch our granddaughter while easy child is in school. So why is it ... when "we", husband and I, decide to start taking time for ourselves, we get the guilts from difficult child? For example, we went on an impromptu trip out of the area for a couple of days and we get the third degree. "Didn't you guys just go out of town awhile back"? "Aren't you wasting gas by driving - - you always tell me to watch my gas usage". Well difficult child, that is because YOU always ask me for gas money, so don't waste it. We don't ask YOU for gas money, so the fact that we are driving is NOT your issue. Then . . . . I ended up fixing the only tattoo that I have (on my shoulder), because it wasn't done very well the first time. When difficult child found out, she starts in with how unfair it was that I got it done, when SHE wanted to get one too (the one she wants will cost $500). "Well difficult child, if you want a tattoo, then save your money and get one" ...........But in her mind, "I" spent money on myself and not her and "that isn't fair". Ummm....you are 23, married and have two children. Your Mommy and Daddy don't have to spend their money on you, if they don't want to........ Just wondered if any of your adult kids pull the same guilt trip on you, whether they are a easy child or difficult child.