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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 60794" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>To be 100% honest, the only answer anyone can give you is, "We don't know." ODD rarely stands alone--he could have other disorders that haven't even surfaced yet and if you don't feel you can accept the worse, in my opinion, than you may want to re-evaluate what you want. This woman can't assure you of anything and the child himself probably doesn't understand why he acts the way he does. He may never go to college. He may. He may go and get into trouble. One thing to understand is that mental illness is pretty much genetic. My fourteen year old is NOT defiant or mean, but he is on the high functioning end of the autism spectrum. He will forever need a little help and will never go to college, at least not with tons of support for kids with special needs. He is fourteen, and fortunately my grown son wants to look out for him when we're gone. I wish we could give you a specific answer, but if you pursue this relationship further, the only thing you will know is that you don't have any answers. It could get better, stay the same, or even get worse, and you have to prepare yourself for that, and realize that most likely your girlfriend will put her child first (although THAT I can't say for sure--don't know her). I know *I* would though. There is no guarantee that she and you would be alone after he reaches 18 or even older. Take care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 60794, member: 1550"] To be 100% honest, the only answer anyone can give you is, "We don't know." ODD rarely stands alone--he could have other disorders that haven't even surfaced yet and if you don't feel you can accept the worse, in my opinion, than you may want to re-evaluate what you want. This woman can't assure you of anything and the child himself probably doesn't understand why he acts the way he does. He may never go to college. He may. He may go and get into trouble. One thing to understand is that mental illness is pretty much genetic. My fourteen year old is NOT defiant or mean, but he is on the high functioning end of the autism spectrum. He will forever need a little help and will never go to college, at least not with tons of support for kids with special needs. He is fourteen, and fortunately my grown son wants to look out for him when we're gone. I wish we could give you a specific answer, but if you pursue this relationship further, the only thing you will know is that you don't have any answers. It could get better, stay the same, or even get worse, and you have to prepare yourself for that, and realize that most likely your girlfriend will put her child first (although THAT I can't say for sure--don't know her). I know *I* would though. There is no guarantee that she and you would be alone after he reaches 18 or even older. Take care. [/QUOTE]
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