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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 60920" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Hopefully medications will help. But he's entering teen territory, not a nice place.</p><p></p><p>Someone suggested "The Explosive Child" - grab a copy. Also, I strongly recommend you get girlfriend to read here as well, post - whatever. Any help we can give has got to make it easier on both of you.</p><p></p><p>My best friend is in a relationship with a lovely man but they are still keeping separate households. They're both mid-Fifties. But he has a son, technically easy child, who is a real handful. Son is also a qualified doctor and so is financially independent. But he is not emotionally independent and frowns on his father having a girlfriend, even though his mother died six or seven years ago. But his relationship with his mother was so close as to be unhealthy, and he has resented his father almost all his life. Now he expects his father to put his emotional life on hold indefinitely.</p><p>The father has, however, made it clear to his son that he isn't waiting. However, he's not forcing the issue by moving in with girlfriend or having her move in with him. Slowly they're working things out, but this adult, so-called responsible professional person can still throw some amazing tantrums, all because he still loves his mummy and doesn't want daddy to be unfaithful to her memory.</p><p></p><p>So sometimes you can't even count on adult PCs to let you have the relationship you feel you nee,d when they are supposed to have spread their wings.</p><p></p><p>And these days, they so often come back to stay, with grandkids.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 60920, member: 1991"] Hopefully medications will help. But he's entering teen territory, not a nice place. Someone suggested "The Explosive Child" - grab a copy. Also, I strongly recommend you get girlfriend to read here as well, post - whatever. Any help we can give has got to make it easier on both of you. My best friend is in a relationship with a lovely man but they are still keeping separate households. They're both mid-Fifties. But he has a son, technically easy child, who is a real handful. Son is also a qualified doctor and so is financially independent. But he is not emotionally independent and frowns on his father having a girlfriend, even though his mother died six or seven years ago. But his relationship with his mother was so close as to be unhealthy, and he has resented his father almost all his life. Now he expects his father to put his emotional life on hold indefinitely. The father has, however, made it clear to his son that he isn't waiting. However, he's not forcing the issue by moving in with girlfriend or having her move in with him. Slowly they're working things out, but this adult, so-called responsible professional person can still throw some amazing tantrums, all because he still loves his mummy and doesn't want daddy to be unfaithful to her memory. So sometimes you can't even count on adult PCs to let you have the relationship you feel you nee,d when they are supposed to have spread their wings. And these days, they so often come back to stay, with grandkids. Marg [/QUOTE]
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