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When are you morally obligated to give in?
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<blockquote data-quote="DoneDad" data-source="post: 658042" data-attributes="member: 17244"><p>Another poster wrote recently that her therapist explained to her how her son doesn't see her as a person but as a thing that he can use. </p><p></p><p>Your son sounds like he sees you like an ATM machine. Why go to all the trouble to take pictures of his leg and send it to you instead of going to the ER? Because you will dispense money and the ER won't. He knows what PIN code he has to input into the machine (you) to get what he wants. He doesn't care about what it does to you as a person because he doesn't see you as a person only as a thing to be manipulated into giving him what he wants. </p><p></p><p>He has options. You say there is a shelter with drug intake. If he wants help he needs to go there. He'll have a million reasons he can't. Your response to him needs to be simple and consistent - "go to the shelter". He can save his life, but you can't. </p><p></p><p>And you definitely can't by having him move into your house. </p><p></p><p>Him - Mom, my leg is swollen and I may have hepatitis. Can you put me up in a hotel for awhile</p><p></p><p>YOU - No, that won't work. Go to the shelter. </p><p></p><p>HIM - I can't go there. It's like prison with all the rules.</p><p></p><p>YOU - I can't help you. Go to the shelter </p><p></p><p>HIM- I'm hurting. Can you at least send me some money. I haven't eaten for days </p><p></p><p>YOU - No I can't help you. Go to the shelter </p><p></p><p>You get the idea. </p><p></p><p>To answer your question, you are never morally obligated to help somebody kill themselves.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DoneDad, post: 658042, member: 17244"] Another poster wrote recently that her therapist explained to her how her son doesn't see her as a person but as a thing that he can use. Your son sounds like he sees you like an ATM machine. Why go to all the trouble to take pictures of his leg and send it to you instead of going to the ER? Because you will dispense money and the ER won't. He knows what PIN code he has to input into the machine (you) to get what he wants. He doesn't care about what it does to you as a person because he doesn't see you as a person only as a thing to be manipulated into giving him what he wants. He has options. You say there is a shelter with drug intake. If he wants help he needs to go there. He'll have a million reasons he can't. Your response to him needs to be simple and consistent - "go to the shelter". He can save his life, but you can't. And you definitely can't by having him move into your house. Him - Mom, my leg is swollen and I may have hepatitis. Can you put me up in a hotel for awhile YOU - No, that won't work. Go to the shelter. HIM - I can't go there. It's like prison with all the rules. YOU - I can't help you. Go to the shelter HIM- I'm hurting. Can you at least send me some money. I haven't eaten for days YOU - No I can't help you. Go to the shelter You get the idea. To answer your question, you are never morally obligated to help somebody kill themselves. [/QUOTE]
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