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<blockquote data-quote="tiredmommy" data-source="post: 41509" data-attributes="member: 1722"><p>I agree with Linda, too. I've found that Duckie is more & more respectful toward me if I behave like I deserve to be treated respectfully. A natural consequence of being rude or aggressive with someone is that they won't be as receptive toward you in the seconds and minutes after being abused. That being said, I usually place my hand gently on her shoulder, look her in the eye, an tell her that mommy still needs a little time before I can hug back. We'll talk about how our actions affect each other and that just because we're hurt, angry or upset doesn't mean that we don't love each other. I think it also takes away the power that her rages have because the object of her rage (me) has a say in when the episode is over. Frankly, it's not good enough if she's over it but I'm not. I'm not going to feign emotion to my daughter. That's not the way the world works.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tiredmommy, post: 41509, member: 1722"] I agree with Linda, too. I've found that Duckie is more & more respectful toward me if I behave like I deserve to be treated respectfully. A natural consequence of being rude or aggressive with someone is that they won't be as receptive toward you in the seconds and minutes after being abused. That being said, I usually place my hand gently on her shoulder, look her in the eye, an tell her that mommy still needs a little time before I can hug back. We'll talk about how our actions affect each other and that just because we're hurt, angry or upset doesn't mean that we don't love each other. I think it also takes away the power that her rages have because the object of her rage (me) has a say in when the episode is over. Frankly, it's not good enough if she's over it but I'm not. I'm not going to feign emotion to my daughter. That's not the way the world works. [/QUOTE]
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