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When is it ok to walk away?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 724629" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hon...you don't have to walk away to walk away. Let me explain.</p><p></p><p>Leaving our children, no matter how horrid they can be, is usually too hard because our love endures. Now if you feel he is a threat to hurt you, Rob you blind, seriously injure your way of life, yes, cut him off. But it doesn't sound that way for you. You can maintain contact and protect yourself at the same times by taking some steps. Take what you like and leave the rest.</p><p></p><p>1. Stop,stop, stop reading their social media.</p><p></p><p>2. Agree to talk to them or text them only a few times a week and end communication if he gets abusive. Period.</p><p></p><p>3. Close the Bank of Mom. No money. No bailouts. Change your bank account and credit card numbers of he has access to the numbers.</p><p></p><p>4. Only visit him in a public place with lots of people around, not in your house where he can snoop around.</p><p></p><p>5. Encourage him if he does positive things, but continue to be skeptical as drug users manipulate, lie and use people. No money.</p><p></p><p>6. Low expectations. If you feel you must pay his rent, don't expect him to pay you back.</p><p></p><p>7. Stay out of his bad decisions. His screwing up with money is his problem, not your business. Don't bring it up. Don't help him out and reward the bad behavior.</p><p></p><p>These are a few ideas. </p><p></p><p>Of course, if you feel No Contact, you can and should. Nobody here will judge you.</p><p></p><p>Love from all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 724629, member: 1550"] Hon...you don't have to walk away to walk away. Let me explain. Leaving our children, no matter how horrid they can be, is usually too hard because our love endures. Now if you feel he is a threat to hurt you, Rob you blind, seriously injure your way of life, yes, cut him off. But it doesn't sound that way for you. You can maintain contact and protect yourself at the same times by taking some steps. Take what you like and leave the rest. 1. Stop,stop, stop reading their social media. 2. Agree to talk to them or text them only a few times a week and end communication if he gets abusive. Period. 3. Close the Bank of Mom. No money. No bailouts. Change your bank account and credit card numbers of he has access to the numbers. 4. Only visit him in a public place with lots of people around, not in your house where he can snoop around. 5. Encourage him if he does positive things, but continue to be skeptical as drug users manipulate, lie and use people. No money. 6. Low expectations. If you feel you must pay his rent, don't expect him to pay you back. 7. Stay out of his bad decisions. His screwing up with money is his problem, not your business. Don't bring it up. Don't help him out and reward the bad behavior. These are a few ideas. Of course, if you feel No Contact, you can and should. Nobody here will judge you. Love from all. [/QUOTE]
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