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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 675047" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>As I read the article, I flashed onto my mother's eyes <em>even after I was an adult.</em> It isn't that she ever stopped abusing; I stopped seeing threat in it. All those posts I wrote about the strange things my mother did being seen as "That's just my mom.", had to do with incidents that were actually abusive ~ or would have been, had my mother been able to swing it.</p><p></p><p>The "rich man's hostas" incident. </p><p></p><p>A thousand others.</p><p></p><p>And I never really connected those disparate realities. I am a grown up and supposedly safe and invulnerable to her now...except that does not mean she is not still abusing.</p><p></p><p>She is! </p><p></p><p>I am so surprised.</p><p></p><p>Remember I was forever posting that I was uncomfortable around my mother. I would always say things implying that if I had been able to behave toward her with warmth or compassion and blah, blah, blah.</p><p></p><p>My mother still indulges her abusive fantasies with each of her children.</p><p></p><p>You could blow me over with a feather.</p><p></p><p>Add all the terrible divisiveness in my family of origin and then, add the murder mystery my mother intends to incorporate into the story of my maternal grandmother's life. And those are top of my mind stuff. </p><p></p><p>Wow, Serenity.</p><p></p><p>I am blown away.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p><p></p><p>Great article. I never once thought to look for adult children still being abused by their dysfunctional families but I suppose that is exactly our ~ or for sure ~ my, situation.</p><p></p><p>I never saw it this way.</p><p></p><p>Thank you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 675047, member: 17461"] As I read the article, I flashed onto my mother's eyes [I]even after I was an adult.[/I] It isn't that she ever stopped abusing; I stopped seeing threat in it. All those posts I wrote about the strange things my mother did being seen as "That's just my mom.", had to do with incidents that were actually abusive ~ or would have been, had my mother been able to swing it. The "rich man's hostas" incident. A thousand others. And I never really connected those disparate realities. I am a grown up and supposedly safe and invulnerable to her now...except that does not mean she is not still abusing. She is! I am so surprised. Remember I was forever posting that I was uncomfortable around my mother. I would always say things implying that if I had been able to behave toward her with warmth or compassion and blah, blah, blah. My mother still indulges her abusive fantasies with each of her children. You could blow me over with a feather. Add all the terrible divisiveness in my family of origin and then, add the murder mystery my mother intends to incorporate into the story of my maternal grandmother's life. And those are top of my mind stuff. Wow, Serenity. I am blown away. Cedar Great article. I never once thought to look for adult children still being abused by their dysfunctional families but I suppose that is exactly our ~ or for sure ~ my, situation. I never saw it this way. Thank you. [/QUOTE]
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