what do I do? My 5 y.o. is old enough to "get" that we don't kick, hit, punch etc me. The 3 y.o. doesn't get that yet. After all, that's what he SEES and that's what is done to him (I'm finding out maybe more than I think). So the 3. y.o. gets time out and other consequences when he lashes out. But in his 3 y.o. brain his older brother doesn't get consequences (which is probably true). Any ideas on what to do? I speak nicely, gently etc to him but nights like tonight when difficult child fought me on almost every word I spoke (or didn't speak) 3 y.o. gets mad at the little things and lashes out, mouths off to me, hits and kicks me. I blew at him tonight. The difference is, he says he's sorry....tonight he said he's REALLY sorry. And we make up and it's over. But is there anyway to explain or help him understand that what he sees day in and day out is NOT acceptable? I am hearing from him more and more that difficult child kicked or hit him and 5 y.o. has in passing said difficult child hits 3y.o. difficult child of course says 3 y.o. is lying. But sometimes I know he's not. When 3 y.o. is engrossed in a riveting episode of "Rocket Safari" by the Little Einsteins, then comes in the kitchen (ie leaves the show) to tell me difficult child hit him...I'm thinking something DID happen as not much can get 3 y.o. to leave Little Einsteins! Anyone got any ideas on how to get 3 y.o to mimic 5 y.o instead of difficult child?