So you know the general theme is to try to talk to difficult child "later", after his meltdown, after he's calmed down, after everything. What do you do when they don't remember what happened? And WHY don't they remember? Do they really not remember or have they just blocked it out? Yesterday morning was pretty bad. I yelled (which I shouldn't have). Later, when I picked him up from camp I said "hey bud, i wanted to tell you I am sorry for yelling this morning, I shouldn't have done that and I'm sorry for hurting your feelings" He said to me (completely serious) "when the other person forgot you shouldn't say sorry because that just makes them feel sad again" Then we were @ the psychiatric's office talking about the meltdown and he really acted as though he had no recollection. How am I supposed to talk about it "later" if he can't remember it later? And why doesn't he remember it?