Today we had a family session at the Residential Treatment Center (RTC). The therapists asked to talk with my husband and I alone. Things have not been very good the last few weeks at this place and we have had to advocate for our daughter (you can see my forced diet posting in teens forum). This is not her first rodeo in fascilities and we have had to advocate for many health issues like an impacted tooth, sinus infections, not giving her medications as scheduled, refusing to follow through with doctors orders, allowing her to be victomized ect. Never the less, the therapist is concerned that we advocate for our difficult child and she feels that our 16 year old needs to do it on her own. We agree... however, when she tries to advocate and it falls on deaf ears i.e; she is not believed, her issues are not resolved, or she is ignored (once waited 2 weeks to see the doctor and we finally had to take her and she had a severe sinus infection and pnemonia), We think it's time for parent help. Its an institution-therapist wants us to give them the benefit of the doubt.....I just can't do it! Not after all the horrid experiences we have had over last few years. Unfortunate for us and difficult child, our daughter is a victim type-she was placed in this situation by the abuse she has suffered and she seems to almost be a magnet for abuse. Just today the girls in the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) circulated a paper with a picture of my daughter and they drew weapons stuck into her. Staff told her to use a skill and deal with it. We asked to speak with the unit supervisor right during this family session. She told us she would get on it, but then turned to our daughter and told her this is happening because your involved in mean girl stuff-are you kidding me??? I wish my daughter even had a mean bone to stick up for herself! The only people she is ever more than passive with is my husband and I. I have bawled my eyes out for 2 hours, pretty unusual for me. I don't know what to dur difficult child doesn't trust them, nor do I. Why would we? Of course she will tell me first, I'm the mom. She often asks me how she should handle it, thats a good thing. I always give her a chance first. If things are not resolved, is it bad for me to step in? I think they know they have messed up and they are trying to get us to back off. I just feel as if I'm doing the right things, but being kicked in the gut for being an advocate for my kid.