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<blockquote data-quote="Elsi" data-source="post: 741174" data-attributes="member: 23349"><p>Smithmom, that sounds like a great plan. I’m afraid my resources would never be enough to make that kind of difference. I started over basically from ground zero ten years ago. I have a lot of catching up to do just to have a secure retirement for myself, and if I happen to live as long as my grandparents did I’m not sure I’ll have have enough. (They lived to be 98 and 99.) I expect the house will have to be sold at some point to pay for my care of my partners. There definitely will be no annuities or substantial lump sums, unless I happen to die young.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I really struggle with this. How can this be the life they want? I recognize that this is the life they seem to have chosen, or allowed themselves to fall into, but They are not happy - not at all. Who wants to be homeless? Who wants to be hungry? My daughter is selling herself for drugs and money. How can this be the life she wants? </p><p></p><p>They say they want better. But seem unable to get to even a small amount of stability. </p><p></p><p>I don’t care if they never have professional jobs or own a house or get married or achieve anything we might consider part of a ‘normal’ life. I can live with that. I just want them to have enough stability that I know they’ll have a safe place to sleep, enough to eat, access to healthcare. If it’s a tiny apartment or a rented room or a trailer that’s fine. But right now they can’t even do that. And it’s only going to get harder as they get older. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>No, it’s not. But their future looks very grim to me. Working poor in prior generations often had children who took them in in later years, or a church community to fall back on. They will have neither. And how long will they be able to keep finding jobs in bars and restaurants when they are no longer young and strong? Who will want to hire them at my age? I just don’t see an answer for mine that doesn’t end very badly. It’s hard to think about.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elsi, post: 741174, member: 23349"] Smithmom, that sounds like a great plan. I’m afraid my resources would never be enough to make that kind of difference. I started over basically from ground zero ten years ago. I have a lot of catching up to do just to have a secure retirement for myself, and if I happen to live as long as my grandparents did I’m not sure I’ll have have enough. (They lived to be 98 and 99.) I expect the house will have to be sold at some point to pay for my care of my partners. There definitely will be no annuities or substantial lump sums, unless I happen to die young. I really struggle with this. How can this be the life they want? I recognize that this is the life they seem to have chosen, or allowed themselves to fall into, but They are not happy - not at all. Who wants to be homeless? Who wants to be hungry? My daughter is selling herself for drugs and money. How can this be the life she wants? They say they want better. But seem unable to get to even a small amount of stability. I don’t care if they never have professional jobs or own a house or get married or achieve anything we might consider part of a ‘normal’ life. I can live with that. I just want them to have enough stability that I know they’ll have a safe place to sleep, enough to eat, access to healthcare. If it’s a tiny apartment or a rented room or a trailer that’s fine. But right now they can’t even do that. And it’s only going to get harder as they get older. No, it’s not. But their future looks very grim to me. Working poor in prior generations often had children who took them in in later years, or a church community to fall back on. They will have neither. And how long will they be able to keep finding jobs in bars and restaurants when they are no longer young and strong? Who will want to hire them at my age? I just don’t see an answer for mine that doesn’t end very badly. It’s hard to think about. [/QUOTE]
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