When you feel like you just can’t take it anymore, count to 10 and on each count take in a long slow deep breath, exhale slowly and focus on nothing else but your breathing. This will calm you, bring you back to the present moment. Live in this present moment, embrace it. Let go of the thoughts like “it will always be like this” or “it will never get better” You only have power over the moment you are in, do not project out to the future, you have no power there. Negative thoughts are so damaging and can easily consume us. Focus on what is positive, think of at least 5 things in your life that are good, for example “I have a job” I’m a really good cook” “I have a great spouse” “I love the smell of roses” “I have the sweetest cat” No matter what we are going through there are always things to be grateful for. Be good to yourself. Find a new hobby or get back into something you used to enjoy before the chaos of having a Difficult Child took over. Go for a walk in the woods, along the beach, in a park, somewhere there is “nature” all around you. Breathe, take it all in. Live your life to the fullest. It’s ok to allow yourself to be happy, to do fun things. It’s YOUR life, take it back, own it, live it!!