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<blockquote data-quote="mof" data-source="post: 709594" data-attributes="member: 20533"><p>Copa,</p><p></p><p>I am following along, and nodding. It saddens me that as mothers our love for them takes from us. It saddens me that the tangible attachment we have to our sons is a steep price of our other relationships that are just as if not more important.</p><p></p><p>I think the fact that you know what your goal is, is the turning point. You remember the feelings you are missing. When our son has a bad day, so do we. How dare them! Ha! Fact is, how dare us allow them to steal our joy...its our problem!</p><p></p><p>If your son can afford to pay rent, then he should. Do you then micro manage what he can do then? Stopping pot seems unnogotiable to him. Our son is sober, and is I'm afraid the last few months showing growth..I'm afraid to jinx it. I do know that when he no longer lives with us, what he does is on him.</p><p></p><p>I want a retirement with my husband, I want laughter, joy and I want to choose happiness.</p><p></p><p>I thought of you other day when I heard a song, " Keeper of the flame, Keeper of the pain".</p><p></p><p>You know what you want, find a middle ground that works for you first, and gives him control of his decisions. You will always love him, and he knows that.</p><p></p><p>Congrats Copa..celebrate you!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mof, post: 709594, member: 20533"] Copa, I am following along, and nodding. It saddens me that as mothers our love for them takes from us. It saddens me that the tangible attachment we have to our sons is a steep price of our other relationships that are just as if not more important. I think the fact that you know what your goal is, is the turning point. You remember the feelings you are missing. When our son has a bad day, so do we. How dare them! Ha! Fact is, how dare us allow them to steal our joy...its our problem! If your son can afford to pay rent, then he should. Do you then micro manage what he can do then? Stopping pot seems unnogotiable to him. Our son is sober, and is I'm afraid the last few months showing growth..I'm afraid to jinx it. I do know that when he no longer lives with us, what he does is on him. I want a retirement with my husband, I want laughter, joy and I want to choose happiness. I thought of you other day when I heard a song, " Keeper of the flame, Keeper of the pain". You know what you want, find a middle ground that works for you first, and gives him control of his decisions. You will always love him, and he knows that. Congrats Copa..celebrate you! [/QUOTE]
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