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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 693672" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I love this.</p><p></p><p>Yep, it's on us And we don't always get the results we want, but if we don't then we still have to decide how we respond.</p><p></p><p>I never had a negotiable job in my life...so I could work or not work. Having power there wasn't going to happen. My jobs were unimportant and replaceable and if id fussed over anything, i would have been shown the door...lol.But I'm glad it worked for you, copa. You were STRONG, girl <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" />. I decided that my identity would be as a mother. So it was And that could have backfired badly. I expected total failure.</p><p></p><p></p><p>But i got stronger.</p><p></p><p>It was in my personal life where I had power and learned how to use it. Today I am on great terms with everyone I love except for Goneboy (not everything goes your way, but I did at least set boundaries and it felt good).</p><p></p><p>The idea that me, life's misfit, would end up beloved by so many was unthinkable to me as a young woman. Everyone mistreated me and I let them. I expected it. I didn't know how to be anything except a losing oxymoron. ..a rebel who talked back but, in the end, gave up and hid and believed I deserved a terrible life. I thought everyone would leave me because I was not worthy.</p><p></p><p>Thank God for those who taught me to think differently. It is because of them, I am here today, surrounded by loving family.</p><p></p><p>It sure did not seem that my life would ever turn out this way. We can be kind, but we also need to have confidence and feel I'mworthy and expect to be treated with respect. Took me a while, but if you don't treat me with respect, I don't want you around me..and, yes, I feel it's your loss. I finally got to this point. I even feel that way about my jobs or volunteering. Hey, I work hard. If you don't want me, I no longer care. Goodbye.</p><p></p><p>Thanks for the reminder, RE. We do have power over how we respond and it matters.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 693672, member: 1550"] I love this. Yep, it's on us And we don't always get the results we want, but if we don't then we still have to decide how we respond. I never had a negotiable job in my life...so I could work or not work. Having power there wasn't going to happen. My jobs were unimportant and replaceable and if id fussed over anything, i would have been shown the door...lol.But I'm glad it worked for you, copa. You were STRONG, girl :). I decided that my identity would be as a mother. So it was And that could have backfired badly. I expected total failure. But i got stronger. It was in my personal life where I had power and learned how to use it. Today I am on great terms with everyone I love except for Goneboy (not everything goes your way, but I did at least set boundaries and it felt good). The idea that me, life's misfit, would end up beloved by so many was unthinkable to me as a young woman. Everyone mistreated me and I let them. I expected it. I didn't know how to be anything except a losing oxymoron. ..a rebel who talked back but, in the end, gave up and hid and believed I deserved a terrible life. I thought everyone would leave me because I was not worthy. Thank God for those who taught me to think differently. It is because of them, I am here today, surrounded by loving family. It sure did not seem that my life would ever turn out this way. We can be kind, but we also need to have confidence and feel I'mworthy and expect to be treated with respect. Took me a while, but if you don't treat me with respect, I don't want you around me..and, yes, I feel it's your loss. I finally got to this point. I even feel that way about my jobs or volunteering. Hey, I work hard. If you don't want me, I no longer care. Goodbye. Thanks for the reminder, RE. We do have power over how we respond and it matters. [/QUOTE]
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