I guess it's my turn to post an update about my ds. I haven't posted much this week as its been a busy one. I took today to catch up on everyone else's posts so here goes. Sorry ahead of time for the length. The Halloween craft night last Saturday went okay. Ds was a bit rambunctious but it wasn't really a big deal as the other kids were running around too. He did listen but wasn't really interested in the crafts. Okay, typical 8yo boy stuff. Sunday-don't remember anything noteworthy. Monday-We had the worst night in a while. Ds had a club afterschool so got home 45min later than reg day. He had to do homework. Normally he gets 1/2 hr break of whatever he wants to do. Too much homework so not going to work. Well that was meltdown #1. Shortlived though and he managed to do some math. Then I remembered I hadn't made the muffins for easy child's snack to bring to preschool. I needed bananas. So quick dinner and off to store. Everybody could go and we'd get ice cream after dinner. Well quick dinner turned out to be running late. Store did not have bananas, and easy child fell asleep in car on way there. So its 7pm and I am starting to have a meltdown of my own because nothing is going right. I say to husband that we need to skip icecream and go to other store and get bananas and then go home to finish homework and put easy child to bed. Ds starts in-"But you said, that's not fair...." He kept up. I told him to "shut up" and we went to follow new plan. Found bananas at 2nd store and started to feel better. But I also had wanted icecream and reallized I was not "acting very well" so bought pudding and apologized to Ds. He was better after this. Tuesday-Ds was angel doing math homework. Learning simple geometry and really understood. High-fiving me and saying how easy it was. Ahh, what we all live for. I smiled and reveled in it with husband. Wednesday-Early morning EEG test. It appeared to go fine but of course the early morning and stress of it all left me very weary. Probably Ds as well. He came home for a bit after to finish up some homework before returning to school. Of course, he didn't want to return to school and was carrying on. I simply said-"Do your homework quickly now and go back for recess, or don't and stay inside for recess when you get to school. But you are going to school either way." Mostly so I could nap! Well, he calmed down and did about half the work before it was time to return so we finished it that night under a bit of complaining but ultimately he did it. by the way, I think the test went fine but we will know officially next week sometime. Thursday-Came home and had his usual 1/2 hr break of TV. Then outside to play with friends which went well so we stayed out a bit longer than normal (nice cool day and wkend will rain so thought that was good too!). Anyway, he was admittedly probably on the hungry side, but anyway went in to turn on TV again. I said "No -homework time". He started meltdown. I said I will start dinner. He asked what we were having-chicken I said. He screamed "I don't like chicken. What else is there?" Now know that I am not one to make ev1 different things each night and we all try to sit as family most nights. So he says he wants chicken nuggets. Again, not so big a deal as they're the same. But, I had moved this into Basket A as I did not see a valid reason for him not to eat the chicken-he usually does. So the episode escalated into yelling that he hated me and I was "the meanest mom ever". Why can't I ever be nice?? He refused to do his homework until he got chicken nuggets. I told him to sit and calm down. He refused to sit and stood just to see what I would do. I GENTLY helped him to be seated a few times. He yelled some more and just eventually went to his room. I asked him to do homework and tried to remain calm through whole thing. I think I did pretty well. So, total meltdown time was a hour. Then when husband came home he asked him to make him some chicken nuggets. I stepped up and said no-he said I wasn't asking you. So I quickly explained situation and husband backed me up. Ds was hungry and came over and ate chicken. He did homework after that. And never said another word about the episode. So why do our difficult child's meltdwon over something as stupid as chicken nuggets? Why did the powers above make us the meanest moms ever? Why was he as good as gold on Tuesday? And my husband wants to know how he can turn this anger on and off like a lightswitch? Also, is tomorrow a good day or a bad day?