I know there have been quite a few people responding to my posts in regards to my seperation, but how many people here have ended a long long term relationship/marriage and where are you at now? Are you happy?? How long did it take you to get past it? Some days are good and others I just get lonely, and yes angry. I get angry because I think of what my future should have been. I should be looking forward to my future with a husband that appreciated who I was and we should be looking forward to doing the things together that couples do after 27 years of marriage. Instead I am starting my life over. I can't say I really miss him, but I miss the companionship. I used to love when he went to VT and I would have some time alone, but now I have too much time alone. I don't want to confuse this for missing him and get back into something that hasn't even begun to be resolved in any way. He was unhappy with what I had to offer and seems to think this is all about my being able to forgive him or not. I am the same person he was unhappy with 2 months ago, so I know that is not the answer. I'm really thinking more on the lines of not really wanting to work things out, but what is my other option?? Being alone??? Maybe I need to start finding hobbies. I go to counseling tomorrow. I'm looking forward to it. I have days that I really think I know what I want and other days I'm all over the place with my thoughts and feelings. I'm sure this is normal, but I don't like feeling this way.