I have a new 'neice' difficult child and I went to the hospital tonight to meet her. I told him he HAD to be safe there or they wouldn't let him be around the baby (and he LOVES babies). He had a rough day at school - had to be held for a brief period and missed dance class, and you could see him working to control himself tonight. He was BEAUTIFUL at the hospital. He held his new cousin and kissed her head and just beamed with pride. We didn't push it, tho, and left within about 15 minutes. As we walked out, we met 2 women walking in with 3 boys that appeared to be around the same age as difficult child 2. He said "they sure have a bunch of boys". Yup, they do. Then he said "I bet they get pretty wild." And I said "Maybe, but maybe not. Not all kids get wild." He thought about that a while as we walked to the car. Then he said "I wish not being wild was easier for me. Why am I like this, mom?"