ok, second attempt at posting... This morning started off not so great with difficult child searching the house until he found lolly bananas and eating them all. This then triggered poor behaviour which generally quickly spirals out of control. Thankfully though, this morning was a good morning to go out the front and ride bikes and get some fresh air and sunshine. Both boys rode their bikes (well, easy child played and watched difficult child) until I said it was time to quickly go to the shops to get some things for lunch. It looked like it was going to be an argument, but he held it together and got in the car as asked. At the shops I left him and his brother in the car (something I don't like doing) so I could run in and get milk. Coming back out I found he had searched everything in the car, played with my mirrors and changed settings on things but he had left his brother alone. At home easy child went to bed and difficult child has been sitting on the floor next to me playing lego, with a movie on in the background. He ate the lunch I gave him without argument and has been playing nicely and quietly (although building army things) for close to 2 hours. It has been lovely and calm and peaceful. Unfortunately at some point I will have to ask him to put the lego away so easy child doesnt eat it, or get him to do something and it will all go to hell. But why, oh why cant it be like this always? even a whole day of this I would be happy with. I am so tired of all the animosity and unhappiness in this house that i would pretty much give anything to have this calm for longer.