I created this whole thread and when I went to send it, the site crashed and now I have to start over again. So here it goes.... My 23 year old son is a heroin addict. Unfortunately, it took me way too long to wake up and the denial. Like everyone says, they are master manipulators. I realize I've been enabling him all along when I thought I was helping him. I've bailed him out of so many situations, thinking this is the last time. Once we get thru this mess, it's over and we can move on. Yes he lives with us (but not as of today)! I've helped him get through school so he could become an electrician. I've helped him with cars so he can keep a job. I've made sure his bills get paid. He has lots of bills. I've believed his lies, fell victim to his manipulations and all to have credit cards stolen, money stolen, tools stolen, and the final straw: jewlery stolen. I have to keep valuables in a lockbox. A lot of good that does. He picked the lock. Unfortunately, these things happened in little bits and pieces so you don't suspect at first. My husband and I now know we've lost a lot of stuff. I am so heartbroken and mentally and physically drained. I work two jobs and my husband works nights. We're not home a lot. I've always worried when we're not there, whether my stuff is safe. Yesterday I found out he had gotten hold of one of my husband's credit cards (it was in the lockbox) and used it buy food, gas and stuff he could pawn. Last night I gave him the ultimatum: Jail or Rehab. He said rehab. But outpatient because he's not going to miss work. Of course he isn't. He just started working for a new company and he's making very good money. He'll have plenty to buy drugs with. Today I had this nagging feeling. I checked the lockbox for some rings I had in there (trying to keep them safe). And guess what they're gone too! One was my husband's wedding band, one was my anniversary ring. I'm so devastated. I called him and told him he was never to come near my home again. I was going to call the police and press charges. He told me not to bother that he was just going to kill himself. I never wanted it to come to this. I have never been strong. Everything I have been reading is everything I'm going through. I hate this place drugs have put us in!