So I have an app called whisper it was supposed to be a spin off on the post secret app that was taken down last year by the way if you don't know about it www.postsecret.com very cool, it updates every Sunday. Anyway the app is supposed to be 18 plus but it isn't. And this girl posted that her parents loved each other but where getting a divorce and she thought it was because of her brothers and sisters having disabilities. There are 9 of them and they are all adopted. Now I am sure her parents didn't know exactly what they were getting into when they took on a boat load of difficult child's but I imagine there must of been a lot of love there. Love they wanted to share with children. I told her that I'm sure unless one of her parents was abusive towards them it probably wasn't the reason partly because in my heart I felt it to be true and secondly because even if it is true she doesn't need to think that and 3rdly because my ex husband's parent tried to tell him the reason he cheated on his wife of 22 years was because his son was a pos. and that's bull koi Anyway my question was why is it so hard for children to understand that parents are people too? parents have feelings also and sometimes it isn't all about the kids, if anything the kids probably kept them together longer then ripping them apart. I'm not really talking about younger kids but an older kid? My ex and I loved each other pretty sure we still kind of love each other but there was a point where we just couldn't start over again, couldn't push it aside and keep acting like the marriage was working. I sometimes wonder of tk thinks boyo causes our divorce, because boyo was an infant I went to Afghanistan and then poof she had no two parent system anymore. It's not a conversation I wish to have with her because if she didn't think it before she might think it after I asked her and she can be relentless about some of her ideas. Thoughts? Do you remember being thoughtful of your parents as people? I remember judging moods, good mood bad mood with my parents and thinking my mother was fragile. I didn't think of how alone she must be until I was a teenager though.