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Why does most of the learned behavior in childhood goes away when you are a adult?
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 675521" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>A Dad, this is my take on things. </p><p></p><p>As children we are dependent. Most everything we are and have depends upon the adults in our lives. When we become teens and young adults we have to separate, emancipate, from our status as protected young. Sometimes separating is tough. I think that is one reason why young people act so obnoxious and contrary. They act so that we will reject them. They want to test us. To see if we still love them. They also want us to push them away, so that they can grow up. Even when they are not sure they want to. </p><p></p><p>We become adults we feel we can choose to be who we are, who we want to be. At least to some extent. Hopefully we become able to live with intention according to our values, and taking responsibility for our our choices. If we want to eat and not share, we can. We pay the bills. Why not?</p><p></p><p>I think sometimes we keep the behaviors we learned as children. Sometimes not. I for one was taught to be a little domestic servant. Ironing, vacuuming, you name it. My significant other does most of the housework, except for wash and dishes. I cook and bake. I want to begin doing more housework, but the tyranny of having to do so much of, under duress, takes away any pleasure from that work. Actually, I get very anxious and I panic. I never feel like I am doing it right. As I do housework I feel as if I will be punished any minute--and it is me who is doing it.</p><p></p><p>Very interesting thread, A Dad.</p><p></p><p>Thank you.</p><p></p><p>What are your ideas about why we give up useful or proactive behaviors as adults?</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 675521, member: 18958"] A Dad, this is my take on things. As children we are dependent. Most everything we are and have depends upon the adults in our lives. When we become teens and young adults we have to separate, emancipate, from our status as protected young. Sometimes separating is tough. I think that is one reason why young people act so obnoxious and contrary. They act so that we will reject them. They want to test us. To see if we still love them. They also want us to push them away, so that they can grow up. Even when they are not sure they want to. We become adults we feel we can choose to be who we are, who we want to be. At least to some extent. Hopefully we become able to live with intention according to our values, and taking responsibility for our our choices. If we want to eat and not share, we can. We pay the bills. Why not? I think sometimes we keep the behaviors we learned as children. Sometimes not. I for one was taught to be a little domestic servant. Ironing, vacuuming, you name it. My significant other does most of the housework, except for wash and dishes. I cook and bake. I want to begin doing more housework, but the tyranny of having to do so much of, under duress, takes away any pleasure from that work. Actually, I get very anxious and I panic. I never feel like I am doing it right. As I do housework I feel as if I will be punished any minute--and it is me who is doing it. Very interesting thread, A Dad. Thank you. What are your ideas about why we give up useful or proactive behaviors as adults? COPA [/QUOTE]
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