get them to do basic chores? Even husband. I am not supposed to lift, bend, stoop, reach, or do much of anything for a few more weeks. husband took this time off to "take care of me" and "help" me. Why is it that every single garbage can is crammed full, there is still wrapping paper on the floor, and a big bag of pizza boxes waiting to go out? I am also supposed to know where everything is. If I don't then someone yells or cries. I made them ALL sit down and explained things. husband started in on the kids with a very grumpy "you need to do x and y and z" and I stopped him cold. I said "they don't see the stuff, and you don't either. Every single stinkin day you throw a little packet away from one of your medications. Into a garbage can that is overflowing with your little packets. HOw can the KIDS be expected to SEE if You won't??" He was not happy. I think the change and increase in cleaning might last 3 hours. But probably not. I HATE this. The house is disgusting and I can't change it. Thanks for the vent.