I completely agree with DF's comments on a child's self esteem. I remember when our schools first put self esteem training in. First of, WTF??? why is that even needed?? Wiz was about a year old then. My parents' neighbor is the best mom I know, and I felt blessed to know her and her kids and husband. She was also Wiz' sitter when I was in college because his immune system couldn't handle being in a setting with other little kids. Her oldest has the most confidence and best self esteem of any child I ever knew. Always did - totally amazing young woman. She was in first grade and I remember her mother saying that all the self esteem stuff was nice, but not every child NEEDS more self esteem! Talk about true!
One of my aunts refused to allow anyone to say no to her son. He was to be redirected. Period. She didn;t want to "stifle his creativity". I will NEVER forget my mother looking her in the eye and saying that ALL children can benefit from a bit of "stifling". The next week her darling son used sharpies to redecorate the walls, furniture, and everything in her closet!!! My mother then asked her if she still thought that his creativity should be left "unstifled" - mom had a smile of course, but my aunt got really mad. THEN she told me it was "all" the neighborhood kids' faults. They taught him bad things!!! He was 2 or 3 and these kids were not even around - the ones she blamed it on were out of town with their parents for summer vacation!!!
I HATE hearing that if we had just done this or that to boost Wiz' self esteem he wouldn't have done whatever it was. WIZ hates hearing that too! Says that it is a crock of doodoo, and all the praise for stuff he messed up made him feel like he really wasn't capable of doing any better.
One of my aunts refused to allow anyone to say no to her son. He was to be redirected. Period. She didn;t want to "stifle his creativity". I will NEVER forget my mother looking her in the eye and saying that ALL children can benefit from a bit of "stifling". The next week her darling son used sharpies to redecorate the walls, furniture, and everything in her closet!!! My mother then asked her if she still thought that his creativity should be left "unstifled" - mom had a smile of course, but my aunt got really mad. THEN she told me it was "all" the neighborhood kids' faults. They taught him bad things!!! He was 2 or 3 and these kids were not even around - the ones she blamed it on were out of town with their parents for summer vacation!!!
I HATE hearing that if we had just done this or that to boost Wiz' self esteem he wouldn't have done whatever it was. WIZ hates hearing that too! Says that it is a crock of doodoo, and all the praise for stuff he messed up made him feel like he really wasn't capable of doing any better.