My difficult child, against all advice, followed a girl to another state. She is trying to get and stay clean and at first he was at least open to trying. But things fell apart so quickly. Now he is homeless without anyone, hundreds of miles away and won't go to a shelter. He says he lost his id but wants me to pay for a room. He gets disability and has a payee but with the holiday he can't reach them. I know he's playing me and I refused to get him a room. If he truly lost his id they wouldn't rent to him anyway. He is bipolar, unmedicated, has anxiety, drinks and uses drugs. He says he was forcibly sent to detox for 48 hours last week by the ear where he went for a shot of Ativan for anxiety. I can't believe anything because he lies to me constantly. I can't handle the stress of his constant pleas, my blood pressure has been borderline high the last 6 months from stress. I am trying to detach, but have such a hard time stopping the constant worrying and thinking what if? It of course has been snow and ice,and cold where he is and that makes it so much harder to remain positive. I just don't get how they can make such a mess of their lives and not take help that would be a benefit. I'm feeling so sad and overwhelmed with stress. I have read my detachment books over and over and I know worrying does no good, but right now I feel powerless over my emotions.