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Will be three weeks Wednesday since difficult child got out of jail...again
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<blockquote data-quote="blackgnat" data-source="post: 630921" data-attributes="member: 13561"><p>COM, I can so relate to your post-I think our difficult children are the same age (25) and have similar stories -don't they all?</p><p></p><p>Right now I'm in Colorado-drove here from Illinois and got here yesterday. Staying with ex and easy child at their apartment. Saw difficult child yesterday-he got out of jail July 1 and was lucky enough to get a bed in the homeless shelter. He's also in a community program (and on probation) that requires him to be randomly drug tested and brethalyzed (spelling?) twice a day. Also on medications. So that is a TRUE BLESSING. All of it.</p><p></p><p>He knows that he's on the edge of a precipice and could fall at any moment. He is what I'd call in a honeymoon phase but I can see him emerging out of it into depression and hopelessness. He is currently talking "the good talk" but then again, I've only been here a day-not even! -more like 16 hours! and I fully expect it to start going pear-shaped. Now, is that just ME? Or is it my past experience of his history repeating itself? I'm thinking that my presence here might not be the best-that we will hurl ourselves into the old patterns...he always unloads on me, so maybe that's what produces the feelings of doom for me.</p><p></p><p>He has 2 felonies now but he HAS to find a job. He knows that too much unstructured time is lethal. He already said "Mom, having all this time (has to be out of the shelter from 7 am -7pm) having nothing to do without being high and drunk is getting old". He has pretty much blown through the $1,000 that built up on his State card while he was in jail.</p><p></p><p>He does NOT want to go to prison, which he will if he messes any of this up. But I have a feeling he isn't really looking for one. He kind of expects to fail. That's what has happened in the past, but this time there is no safety net.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry if I'm highjacking your thread! I really just want to send you support and empathy. It's a tough ole world out there...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="blackgnat, post: 630921, member: 13561"] COM, I can so relate to your post-I think our difficult children are the same age (25) and have similar stories -don't they all? Right now I'm in Colorado-drove here from Illinois and got here yesterday. Staying with ex and easy child at their apartment. Saw difficult child yesterday-he got out of jail July 1 and was lucky enough to get a bed in the homeless shelter. He's also in a community program (and on probation) that requires him to be randomly drug tested and brethalyzed (spelling?) twice a day. Also on medications. So that is a TRUE BLESSING. All of it. He knows that he's on the edge of a precipice and could fall at any moment. He is what I'd call in a honeymoon phase but I can see him emerging out of it into depression and hopelessness. He is currently talking "the good talk" but then again, I've only been here a day-not even! -more like 16 hours! and I fully expect it to start going pear-shaped. Now, is that just ME? Or is it my past experience of his history repeating itself? I'm thinking that my presence here might not be the best-that we will hurl ourselves into the old patterns...he always unloads on me, so maybe that's what produces the feelings of doom for me. He has 2 felonies now but he HAS to find a job. He knows that too much unstructured time is lethal. He already said "Mom, having all this time (has to be out of the shelter from 7 am -7pm) having nothing to do without being high and drunk is getting old". He has pretty much blown through the $1,000 that built up on his State card while he was in jail. He does NOT want to go to prison, which he will if he messes any of this up. But I have a feeling he isn't really looking for one. He kind of expects to fail. That's what has happened in the past, but this time there is no safety net. I'm sorry if I'm highjacking your thread! I really just want to send you support and empathy. It's a tough ole world out there... [/QUOTE]
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