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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 645573" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am sorry he did this to himself. If I were you I would make sure the hospital social workers know that you will NOT be available to drive him to therapy and care for him. Flat out tell them that you cannot give up your life because he made himself this sick and still won't care for himself. It will be HARD to do and you will likely get a heavy guilt trip from the hospital, but stand your ground. They have resources to help him, and can get him set up but they will not if they can get you to do it. They will even tell you they have no resources, but when yuo don't show up to take him home or to his apartment, they will find resources to help him rather than to keep him in the hospital.</p><p></p><p>Why do this? Because he has to truly hit HIS bottom and this hasn't been it so far. He is still not willing to accept help for his problems. If you step in and take him home, take him to his appts and do the at home care for him, he will NOT hit bottom and will NOT grow up the way he needs to. If you let him not only fall but flounder around a while, he has a far better chance of truly changing his life. </p><p></p><p>You also need to do this because you cannot fix him. You have to care for yourself and your younger kids, and their lives don't stop because he made himself sick. Bringing his drug use and other problems and influences into the lives of your other kids is not safe, sane or wise. Do not sacrifice the other kids on the altar of his gfgness. That means that until he accepts real help for the underlying addiction and mental illness behind his gfgness, he is not fit to be around his siblings. They don't deserve to go through all the turmoil and drama that he creates and craves. Neither do YOU. </p><p></p><p>So insist he keep his drama elsewhere. The hospital DOES have resources, you just have to really PUSH to get them. It isn't fun, but may help in the long run. </p><p></p><p>I really hope and pray he gets better from ALL of the problems.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 645573, member: 1233"] I am sorry he did this to himself. If I were you I would make sure the hospital social workers know that you will NOT be available to drive him to therapy and care for him. Flat out tell them that you cannot give up your life because he made himself this sick and still won't care for himself. It will be HARD to do and you will likely get a heavy guilt trip from the hospital, but stand your ground. They have resources to help him, and can get him set up but they will not if they can get you to do it. They will even tell you they have no resources, but when yuo don't show up to take him home or to his apartment, they will find resources to help him rather than to keep him in the hospital. Why do this? Because he has to truly hit HIS bottom and this hasn't been it so far. He is still not willing to accept help for his problems. If you step in and take him home, take him to his appts and do the at home care for him, he will NOT hit bottom and will NOT grow up the way he needs to. If you let him not only fall but flounder around a while, he has a far better chance of truly changing his life. You also need to do this because you cannot fix him. You have to care for yourself and your younger kids, and their lives don't stop because he made himself sick. Bringing his drug use and other problems and influences into the lives of your other kids is not safe, sane or wise. Do not sacrifice the other kids on the altar of his gfgness. That means that until he accepts real help for the underlying addiction and mental illness behind his gfgness, he is not fit to be around his siblings. They don't deserve to go through all the turmoil and drama that he creates and craves. Neither do YOU. So insist he keep his drama elsewhere. The hospital DOES have resources, you just have to really PUSH to get them. It isn't fun, but may help in the long run. I really hope and pray he gets better from ALL of the problems. [/QUOTE]
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