As of today as far as I know, he's been sober for 149 days. However, he had to leave his SLE because he wasn't following the rules. But due to his court order, he needs to complete his time in an SLE so he found another one. But this SLE is not as strict and he doesn't have curfew and stays the night at our house a lot more. Last night he came home and admitted to my husband who he was hanging with (a bad choice, drug dealer, in trouble with law) and he got punched in the face. We are concerned that he is starting to make bad choices again. Often I do see him home alone watchig tv and I worry that he is lonely and perhaps that's why he chooses to hang with his old friends. I don't know what to do for him. I want him to make the right choices but seems he doesn't. Will he fall? Will he relapse? *sigh* I'm just feeling worried about his future. He has been working and paying his own rent, but I still am afraid. Also, we are considering changing our code (that's how he enters our home) because he shows up randomly and often leaves a mess, house unlocked, lights on.. we are very picky about our home and expect things in their place, etc. He will be 21 soon, but he tells us we should be helping him out like his other friends parents do. If I added up the cost of our help, it would be in the thousands.. Just wanted some encouragement and sound advice from you good people. Thank you.