exhausted
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So our bright daughter is now enrolled in a GED program. She has taken 2 pretests and she aces them. She thinks she will take her real test in a few weeks. I tried to encourage her to get a little more tutoring because if she scores above 510 in all tests , she can actually get a community college scholarship. She got mad at me and said, "Nothing is ever good enough for you!"
In the mean time, she has once again stollen from us(we give her nothing but the basics), trouble is we can't prove it. Past experience tells me that the police will do nothing. She was gone overnight last weekend after money was missing. She came home with her nails done and told us her friend did it for her birthday. We know that is not true. I don't see the signs yet, but I wonder if she is using pot again as she refuses her antideppresant.
We keep stuff locked up-so not sure how she got what she got. Have had to change the locks on our family car and house (we dont give her a house key-doors are locked at 9:00). Unfortunatly, she spends a couple hours home alone now that she refuses to go regular school.
We took her to the local Rape recovery center as they offer EMDR therapy for a very low fee. Our new insurance won't pay for it and it is very expensive. We hope this will help.
My husband and son are done. They hardly speak to her. After 2 Residential Treatment Center (RTC) s , years of therapy, they just don't want to deal with her. I feel the weight of the world. She has never dealt with the trauma-the RTCs just have not done it according to the new therapist. Until that is done, she isn't going to get better. I hope she wants to deal with it. The men in my house don't understand. My husband even said, "She can just run away and never come home-I can't do this anymore" I get it-I feel the same frustration. I just can't give up. She is a minor, so not a choice.
What hurts the most is the lack of remorse on her part. She will try to engage me in these horrible cyclical conversations (typical of borderline personality). When I just listen she esculates-" You don't care, you don't listen, blah, blah...." She does it most often in the car where I can't walk away. She blames us for everything, she justifies all her running away and poor choices, and on and on. She even uses this sophisticated, therapy lingo as she does it.
A job? She has applied on- line to everything around here. They all have these tests-kind of personality things, that you take. I guess they have some formula, and they only interview those that "pass". So far she has had no luck. She says that's our fault because, we wont give her a bus pass, or let her get a drivers license so she can apply outside our area. Mmmmmm.wonder what she'll do about that?
Sorry so long, just needed to vent.
In the mean time, she has once again stollen from us(we give her nothing but the basics), trouble is we can't prove it. Past experience tells me that the police will do nothing. She was gone overnight last weekend after money was missing. She came home with her nails done and told us her friend did it for her birthday. We know that is not true. I don't see the signs yet, but I wonder if she is using pot again as she refuses her antideppresant.
We keep stuff locked up-so not sure how she got what she got. Have had to change the locks on our family car and house (we dont give her a house key-doors are locked at 9:00). Unfortunatly, she spends a couple hours home alone now that she refuses to go regular school.
We took her to the local Rape recovery center as they offer EMDR therapy for a very low fee. Our new insurance won't pay for it and it is very expensive. We hope this will help.
My husband and son are done. They hardly speak to her. After 2 Residential Treatment Center (RTC) s , years of therapy, they just don't want to deal with her. I feel the weight of the world. She has never dealt with the trauma-the RTCs just have not done it according to the new therapist. Until that is done, she isn't going to get better. I hope she wants to deal with it. The men in my house don't understand. My husband even said, "She can just run away and never come home-I can't do this anymore" I get it-I feel the same frustration. I just can't give up. She is a minor, so not a choice.
What hurts the most is the lack of remorse on her part. She will try to engage me in these horrible cyclical conversations (typical of borderline personality). When I just listen she esculates-" You don't care, you don't listen, blah, blah...." She does it most often in the car where I can't walk away. She blames us for everything, she justifies all her running away and poor choices, and on and on. She even uses this sophisticated, therapy lingo as she does it.
A job? She has applied on- line to everything around here. They all have these tests-kind of personality things, that you take. I guess they have some formula, and they only interview those that "pass". So far she has had no luck. She says that's our fault because, we wont give her a bus pass, or let her get a drivers license so she can apply outside our area. Mmmmmm.wonder what she'll do about that?
Sorry so long, just needed to vent.
