Me: "Son is in Colorado. Checked himself into detox. Says he's going to ignore his criminal charges and just stay out of state because they won't extradite him." Daughter: "LOL. Great idea." Me: "I don't know how he can mess this up anymore than he has." Daughter: "I've stopped thinking about him, Mom. He doesn't think about us. Why do you think about him? I don't answer his texts, I don't wonder what he's doing, I just don't care anymore. Until he shows he wants to be a part of the family again, I don't need to know anything about him. I know it's hard. I know you guys want to care about him and I admire that, but I've just decided to stop letting toxic people stay in my life. Only those who make me happy and want me to be. He knows you will always care about him, but maybe the best way to show we care is to stop letting him be so toxic to the people he says he loves." Me: "I needed that, thank you." Daughter: "I'm glad it helped. I'm sorry we've both had to learn a thing or two about forcing someone to be in our lives who doesn't want to be."