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It's a sad image isn't it? of being a tiny cactus with a single flower, alone in the desert, 500 miles between that cactus and the nearest plant.
I really like that, we will figure it out. Yes, when the kids go off the rails and we are doing anything and everything possible to try to stop it, it becomes a whirlwind.Our children are in trouble. We need to believe in them and in ourselves enough to get us through.
That is what is helpful.
Whatever is presented, we will figure it out.
That is a helpful attitude to hold.
These are the feeling states most parents are writing about, including myself when first coming here. The guilt and the searching for answers, blaming our parenting mistakes. It is such a difficult time.But a parent's feeling guilty or responsible or ashamed does not help a frightened, out of control child. Feeling certain we can pull ourselves and one another through it. That will help our troubled children. Meeting and facing the behaviors with compassion.
This is true. When we know better, we do better. This applies to our kids too.That will help us.
That is what will help our children. We don't have to be perfect and neither do they.
Over time, we will learn, and we will do better.
Yes, and when we learn to focus on strengthening and building ourselves, trusting ourselves, the kids see this, and can do it too.It will be difficult to trust ourselves. This will make it difficult for us to hold strong for our children. They are scared, too.
But we can do it.