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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 710024" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I do not have a daughter. I have a son. Everything was great until he grew up. When kids grow up they feel they have to become independent emotionally. In this society especially.</p><p></p><p>I think your daughter may be trying to be emotionally independent of you. She is not doing this against you, or to hurt you, but to gain psychological independence for herself.</p><p></p><p>It sounds like the living arrangement may be making this harder for her, and for you. You have her close to you physically but not emotionally. If she lived independently for a time she might not have to put up such firm boundaries. If she were to live in a different place, she could choose to be with you. Or not. That might give her more of a sense of personal autonomy.</p><p></p><p>My son did leave for 4 years. At about the age your daughter is now. Now he would prefer living with me. Not only for convenience but for love and family.</p><p></p><p>The other thing I could say is that I wonder if you want to ask her how she feels. If you do ask, you need to be prepared to hear what she has to say. This is difficult but it may in the long run be in your interest and in her interest, too, to open up dialog.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 710024, member: 18958"] I do not have a daughter. I have a son. Everything was great until he grew up. When kids grow up they feel they have to become independent emotionally. In this society especially. I think your daughter may be trying to be emotionally independent of you. She is not doing this against you, or to hurt you, but to gain psychological independence for herself. It sounds like the living arrangement may be making this harder for her, and for you. You have her close to you physically but not emotionally. If she lived independently for a time she might not have to put up such firm boundaries. If she were to live in a different place, she could choose to be with you. Or not. That might give her more of a sense of personal autonomy. My son did leave for 4 years. At about the age your daughter is now. Now he would prefer living with me. Not only for convenience but for love and family. The other thing I could say is that I wonder if you want to ask her how she feels. If you do ask, you need to be prepared to hear what she has to say. This is difficult but it may in the long run be in your interest and in her interest, too, to open up dialog. [/QUOTE]
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