As I posted in the wc, my wonderful father in law passed away yesterday and we will be heading to his funeral later in the week. I'm really worried about difficult child and the funeral and the trip in general. He has absolutely no filter and no impulse control lately. He really doesn't get what people are going through and I actually think he can't control himself much. Yesterday was made extremely more difficult for husband because of difficult child. I'm trying to run interference to give him a break but with difficult child it hard to do even that. Even this weekend he was making others very upset. They see him not being able to leave husband alone and it makes them uneasy. He is always LOUD no matter where we go. When we try to explain to him (when he is calm) about how others need more quiet at a time like this or for him to try to be more understanding or less interrupting he will say he understands but then he just can't demonstrate any self control. husband and I have talked about trying someone to watch him so he wouldn't have to come along on the trip. difficult child really wants to come and the chances of us finding someone to watch him are not good. I've thought about sitting with him in a separate part of the church but I'm not sure that will do any good and if I would try to get him out of church if he was being disruptive that would really create a scene. Also he says exactly what he thinks and asks questions or makes comments that make others feel very uncomfortable. easy child/difficult child is so frustrated with difficult child that she isn't going to the funeral if he goes. She really does need to be there. I'm all for letting her sit with some other family members but am still worried about difficult child. Any suggestions?