is taking difficult child backward instead of forward. During the time that difficult child was in the residential facility he was working with the therapist and he was doing really well. For those of you that remember I was bragging that he had really changed his attitude and we could talk and visit for HOURS and not have a single argument. He has only been in the independent living for a couple of weeks and he called tonight saying that the therapist thinks that our relationship is toxic and she would not advised him to come home after treatment. She is suggesting that he cut ties with us completely for three years then try to work on our relationship. I told him that HE has been away from the family for years basically. He has not been home for any of the holidays or birthdays for a long time. he missed two b-days then he had one with us then missed two. In all reality he is missing this one too. Yes we can go visit with him but he is not at home. We can't have him a party or invite family and friends. We have only had one conversation with her and now we were told that she is requesting that we do family therapy with the JPO present. I am hurt because we were starting to heal our relationship so well when he was at the other place and I don't understand what the heck happened. I told him that we are not expecting him to come live with us and treat him like he is little or anything. He should want to go off to school and live on his own so why NO contact at all. She doesn't even know us. We haven't even met.