Well, you meant the best. But a house is a huge expense and takes work to maintain. You need a sustaining job and a good work ethic to kerp up a house.We all tend to think that magically our adult children will step up to the plate if we give them their material needs, but if they haven't before the gifts, they don't after. They either can't or won't take care of themselves. If your son is using drugs that will impede him. If he is mentally ill he needs to choose to get help.
You can't decide for him or force it. He's of legal age.
Maybe it's time to try something new like stepping back. Doing the same thing over and over again when it never works is the
definition of insanity
I hope you can enjoy your other loved ones. Don't let this adult child sick all the oxygen out of your world. It is unfair to your other family...and yourself.
I hope you have other children as I feel it is much easier for us if not all of our beloved children are a mess. I thank the universe every day for my three amazing adult children and just hope my problem adult child helps himself one day.
He does have a good job and car and house, but he is unable to cope with any stress, won't get help and chased away most family and has no friends.
Frankly he is abusive to everyone who might have been close to him, except his son, and I worry that that day may come too when the boy gets older and not so adoring of him. He is 39...i am not going to baby him anymore. He can be very mean.
I am glad he lives a few states away. Yes, I know how that sounds but its true.