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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 643109" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Misdiagnosis definitely happens. I think you're wise to keep looking for answers.</p><p></p><p>Don't blame God. It's a futile exercise. You could argue that God IS taking care of her, by ensuring that she has the sole attention and focus of one parent who really cares about her and wants to help her.</p><p></p><p>We found that once we got the diagnosis that fitted, the difficult child often felt a lot happier and calmer, because they finally knew it wasn't them. That, paradoxically, made it easier for the difficult child to control the problem behaviours. It was as if they now knew they didn't have to be a problem.</p><p></p><p>I'm reminded (on the subject of God and helping) of a MAD magazine spoof I read years ago, on the Poseidon Adventure movie. The original one. MAD called it "The Poop-Side Down Adventure". There was a scene in the now upside-down ballroom where the two preachers (the old one and the young one) are giving entirely opposite solutions to the problem. The old preacher is saying, "Let's all sit tight here and wait to be rescued."</p><p>The young, angry preacher (played by Gene Hackman) says, "It's going to be dangerous, but we have to help ourselves and get ourselves out of here. We have to climb up to the bottom. Only there will they be able to effect a rescue. Look - see that old Christmas tree over there? If we work together, try to avoid the electric lights and the water and the hazard of electrocution, we can climb up to that balcony. Come on, help me. it will be dangerous, but it is what God wants us to do."</p><p>One of the other passengers then says, "Why use the Christmas tree? Why don't we just use that ladder over there?"</p><p>The young preacher swings round at him and snarls, "What are you? An atheist?"</p><p></p><p>Wherever you stand with God, it really doesn't matter. I do think we often are given way too many expectations of God as a magic wishing fairy. A relationship with God doesn't have to be based on "What did you bring me, huh?" But too often, it is. </p><p></p><p>Also - a lot of God-fearing people successfully deal with their problem kids. So do a lot of Muslims, a lot of Jews, a lot of Buddhists, Hindus and atheists. And our kids are what we all have in common. That, and our humanity and desire to make something good out of a challenging situation.</p><p></p><p>Hugs, mate. I think you did the right thing. She needed to know your limits, and she found them. That was well done.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 643109, member: 1991"] Misdiagnosis definitely happens. I think you're wise to keep looking for answers. Don't blame God. It's a futile exercise. You could argue that God IS taking care of her, by ensuring that she has the sole attention and focus of one parent who really cares about her and wants to help her. We found that once we got the diagnosis that fitted, the difficult child often felt a lot happier and calmer, because they finally knew it wasn't them. That, paradoxically, made it easier for the difficult child to control the problem behaviours. It was as if they now knew they didn't have to be a problem. I'm reminded (on the subject of God and helping) of a MAD magazine spoof I read years ago, on the Poseidon Adventure movie. The original one. MAD called it "The Poop-Side Down Adventure". There was a scene in the now upside-down ballroom where the two preachers (the old one and the young one) are giving entirely opposite solutions to the problem. The old preacher is saying, "Let's all sit tight here and wait to be rescued." The young, angry preacher (played by Gene Hackman) says, "It's going to be dangerous, but we have to help ourselves and get ourselves out of here. We have to climb up to the bottom. Only there will they be able to effect a rescue. Look - see that old Christmas tree over there? If we work together, try to avoid the electric lights and the water and the hazard of electrocution, we can climb up to that balcony. Come on, help me. it will be dangerous, but it is what God wants us to do." One of the other passengers then says, "Why use the Christmas tree? Why don't we just use that ladder over there?" The young preacher swings round at him and snarls, "What are you? An atheist?" Wherever you stand with God, it really doesn't matter. I do think we often are given way too many expectations of God as a magic wishing fairy. A relationship with God doesn't have to be based on "What did you bring me, huh?" But too often, it is. Also - a lot of God-fearing people successfully deal with their problem kids. So do a lot of Muslims, a lot of Jews, a lot of Buddhists, Hindus and atheists. And our kids are what we all have in common. That, and our humanity and desire to make something good out of a challenging situation. Hugs, mate. I think you did the right thing. She needed to know your limits, and she found them. That was well done. Marg [/QUOTE]
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