Fran
Former desparate mom
One of the things that helped me when I was heavier was to look at women around me who were a little heavier than me and watched them as they wore clothes I thought I couldn't wear. They looked fine. Why it was good for them but I didn't feel it was good for me was a problem I struggled with.
I love to see larger women who dress with flair and finesse that I could not do. I didn't want to draw attention to my self. Wearing heels, hats and very vibrant colors. They look terrific. Peacock vs. drab peahen.
Doll your self up and remember something terrific about yourself and use that as a foundation instead of the scale.
Keep thinking you are a goddess.
I love to see larger women who dress with flair and finesse that I could not do. I didn't want to draw attention to my self. Wearing heels, hats and very vibrant colors. They look terrific. Peacock vs. drab peahen.
Doll your self up and remember something terrific about yourself and use that as a foundation instead of the scale.
Keep thinking you are a goddess.