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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 674650" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>They all try to guilt us. We need to be clearheaded and remember who they have become, even when it hurts. We need to think with our heads, not our mothering hearts...that's how they get us.</p><p></p><p>Maybe it would help if you went low contact with him for now. Don't accept all his calls. Don't stay on the phone if he gets abusive (tell him you will not take abuse and gently hang up). Don't give him lots of jail spending money. He doesn't deserve it. Don't read all his texts and take your time when you answer the ones you feel are worthy of any answer.</p><p></p><p>"Less is more" with these young adults. The more you talk, the more they twist th ings and abuse us. I suggest just listening and answering "Yes" "No" "Uh-huh" "Um, got to go." Do not try to explain things. And limit how often you talk or text them. If a text is abuse, delete it and don't answer. Just a few suggestions you may or may not find helpful.</p><p></p><p>Most of all, this girl is his friend, his issue, not yours. Don't answer or text her anymore. She sounds like bad news and you have enough on your plate with your oldest son. Hugs!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 674650, member: 1550"] They all try to guilt us. We need to be clearheaded and remember who they have become, even when it hurts. We need to think with our heads, not our mothering hearts...that's how they get us. Maybe it would help if you went low contact with him for now. Don't accept all his calls. Don't stay on the phone if he gets abusive (tell him you will not take abuse and gently hang up). Don't give him lots of jail spending money. He doesn't deserve it. Don't read all his texts and take your time when you answer the ones you feel are worthy of any answer. "Less is more" with these young adults. The more you talk, the more they twist th ings and abuse us. I suggest just listening and answering "Yes" "No" "Uh-huh" "Um, got to go." Do not try to explain things. And limit how often you talk or text them. If a text is abuse, delete it and don't answer. Just a few suggestions you may or may not find helpful. Most of all, this girl is his friend, his issue, not yours. Don't answer or text her anymore. She sounds like bad news and you have enough on your plate with your oldest son. Hugs!!! [/QUOTE]
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