I am in Chicago this weekend and on the hotel computer. Julie, my pastry chef, and Jumper are here with me and Julie brought up something very interesting. Seems that S., the child who decided we were all abusive to him and never looked back at any of us except his father, is apparently at least moderately active in his father's life, at least now. He will not even speak to anyone else, but he did go shopping with ex to help him pick out a computer and he set it up for him. Ex is not tech savvy. He has done many favors like this for ex, although he won't speak to his brothers or his sisters or me. Julie, Jumper and I were talking about today as we had our girl's day out (it was lots of fun!) Anyhow, we were driving and talking a bit about S. and ex and how S. will do things for ex. Julie said, "Well, Dad is getting older." I didn't understand what she meant at first. He is 66 and does have a medical condition so is not in the best of health. Julie said, "Mom, he probably wants some of the money. The inheritance." I thought about that. Ex has inherited a good amount of money and was threatening to cut S. out because S. did not call or contact him for three years, but it drove my ex nuts. S. is his favorite by far and he did try to contact him, although not as often as I did. Anyhow it worked for ex, just not me. I did not even consider that it could be because of ex's money. He has a lot. I don't have much of anything. But S. has money too. He has his own company and, according to his words and his lifestyle, has over a million. "He has enough himself," I told Julie. She said, "Mom, maybe he wants more." I had never considered that before. He always made so much money it never occurred to me that maybe he was giving ex attention because he didn't want to be left out of his will. It's not a pretty thought and I don't know if it's even true, but it was the first time I considered it, mostly because I know S. is doing just fine monetarily on his own. But maybe her idea is true. After all, S. was angry at ex too. And everyone tried to talk to S., but he only responded to ex. He was very cold to everyone else. His favoritism for S. drives his other two kids, Sportsfan in Missouri and Julie, nuts and it makes Julie feel terrible. Her boyfriend offered to set up ex's computer. It's his field and he could have done it. But ex worships S. and probably felt he could do a better job. Julie said she felt bad for her SO and he didn't understand why his offer was rebuffed. Actually, ex got S. to set it up on the sly. He didn't tell the other two that S. was going to do it, but she went to his place and there was his computer and ex has no idea how to set up a rather complicated, touch screen computer. So now I'm wondering if the money issue is just one other reason why S. will interact with ex, but not anybody else. Also ex is a Christian and the rest of us are more spiritual, but we aren't Christian. Ex even goes to S's church. Hard to tell what makes S. tick, but every so often his name still comes up, especially when I'm with Julie, and I contemplate this issue again. Money...never crossed my mind considering how often S. brags about all he has. And I believe he does have what he says he has.