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Would you let go of the rope? It seems like a good time to repost:
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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 636886" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>Sig,</p><p>I just wanted you to know that I keep this story in notes on my phone. I want to be reminded that my children's lives are their own...no longer up to me to save! </p><p> </p><p>As you may know I lost my mind (psychotic breakdown) some nearly 8 yrs ago when my oldest difficult child was in prison. I felt like I was there with him and my heart and mind ached more than I can ever remember before. The Dr's have said that if I ever have another psychotic break that they may not be able to bring me back. </p><p> </p><p>Today I know that I must not be too stressed out...no matter what is going on with my children. My life is in my hands ...as is my mind. They are not responsible for my sanity anymore than I am responsible for their choices. I can't imagine being locked up for the rest of my life unable to enjoy my grandchildren, reach further goals with husband, etc because I "allowed" my children to bleed me dry mentally/emotionally...and they would. </p><p>Not because they are bad people...but because most of their lives I "told" them by my actions that I would never let them fall. </p><p>As you said, we tend to think it's our "duty and obligation" to save them. But we rob them of the consequences and lessons when we do. </p><p> </p><p>Today I have (for the most part) let go of the rope. </p><p>I feel like I am an observer now...no longer a participant. </p><p>My hope is that God has the rope. </p><p>Oh...and my hope is that our difficult child's stop dangling off the side of that bridge!!!</p><p> </p><p>Thanks for the story, for the reminder. </p><p>It means alot to me. </p><p>LMS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 636886, member: 3305"] Sig, I just wanted you to know that I keep this story in notes on my phone. I want to be reminded that my children's lives are their own...no longer up to me to save! As you may know I lost my mind (psychotic breakdown) some nearly 8 yrs ago when my oldest difficult child was in prison. I felt like I was there with him and my heart and mind ached more than I can ever remember before. The Dr's have said that if I ever have another psychotic break that they may not be able to bring me back. Today I know that I must not be too stressed out...no matter what is going on with my children. My life is in my hands ...as is my mind. They are not responsible for my sanity anymore than I am responsible for their choices. I can't imagine being locked up for the rest of my life unable to enjoy my grandchildren, reach further goals with husband, etc because I "allowed" my children to bleed me dry mentally/emotionally...and they would. Not because they are bad people...but because most of their lives I "told" them by my actions that I would never let them fall. As you said, we tend to think it's our "duty and obligation" to save them. But we rob them of the consequences and lessons when we do. Today I have (for the most part) let go of the rope. I feel like I am an observer now...no longer a participant. My hope is that God has the rope. Oh...and my hope is that our difficult child's stop dangling off the side of that bridge!!! Thanks for the story, for the reminder. It means alot to me. LMS [/QUOTE]
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