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<blockquote data-quote="JKF" data-source="post: 629584" data-attributes="member: 12470"><p>He would say let me come home. He thinks if I do that then everything will magically be better. He's so hung up on the fact that we have a nice 3 bedroom home with one empty bedroom. He can't believe I'd allow him to be on the streets and homeless instead of taking him in and letting him use that bedroom which at this point is essentially wasted space. But he will NEVER be allowed to live in our home again. It will never happen. EVER! </p><p></p><p> Yes - this has worked on me for years but I've noticed lately that instead of feeling bad or guilty when he does this now I feel angry and resentful instead. I'm taking that as progress. The guilt has consumed me for years and has dragged me down. The anger actually motivates me to keep going forward with detachment.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>This is a concept that I struggle with a lot because difficult child TRULY has a PD. There is something very seriously wrong with him. Sometimes when I'm in an over thinking kind of mood I beat myself up because if he truly is that ill and can't help it then how can I in good conscience leave him to the elements? How can I not help my truly sick child? Am I making it worse by not helping him? It's a vicious cycle. And as for the link to that site - I saw it in your original thread a while back and I've been using that site as an essential tool in my recovery. I don't post there but I read and it is very comforting. Thank you so much for sharing that MWM!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JKF, post: 629584, member: 12470"] He would say let me come home. He thinks if I do that then everything will magically be better. He's so hung up on the fact that we have a nice 3 bedroom home with one empty bedroom. He can't believe I'd allow him to be on the streets and homeless instead of taking him in and letting him use that bedroom which at this point is essentially wasted space. But he will NEVER be allowed to live in our home again. It will never happen. EVER! Yes - this has worked on me for years but I've noticed lately that instead of feeling bad or guilty when he does this now I feel angry and resentful instead. I'm taking that as progress. The guilt has consumed me for years and has dragged me down. The anger actually motivates me to keep going forward with detachment. This is a concept that I struggle with a lot because difficult child TRULY has a PD. There is something very seriously wrong with him. Sometimes when I'm in an over thinking kind of mood I beat myself up because if he truly is that ill and can't help it then how can I in good conscience leave him to the elements? How can I not help my truly sick child? Am I making it worse by not helping him? It's a vicious cycle. And as for the link to that site - I saw it in your original thread a while back and I've been using that site as an essential tool in my recovery. I don't post there but I read and it is very comforting. Thank you so much for sharing that MWM!! [/QUOTE]
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