Who knows how long this is going to last, but I laid out schedules for each kid and what was expected of them each day, plus made them each sign a contract. No charts....charts are bad in my house. They cause more anxiety. Missy hates going to the aftercare program, so her deal is that if she follows the schedule and contract, she can stop going after February is up. Mighty Mouse's deal is if he does all that he will get a night out with mom and dad (no Missy) for ice cream and slot cars. Mighty made Missy breakfast yesterday and since she was kind of miserable, he brought it into her in the living room.(eyes bulging) I normally wouldn't have let her have it in the living room, but it was such a nice gesture, I just let it go. He made her breakfast this morning too. Mighty just carried her backpack to the bus stop too. Missy, tho not going out of her way to do nice things like that, is saying thank you and please and really being a little more patient with him. Getting up on time and I'm not screaming at her to brush her hair, finish her lunch or waiting for the bus to come back around because she missed the bus yet again. It's only been a few days, but wow - this is much more pleasurable.