We had the best conversation with difficult child over the phone tonight that we have had in the last 10 years...no awkward silences with me trying to come up with questions etc. He is getting to a much better place. For the first time in his life he wants to get sober for himself....the issue is he needs to detox, which of course means his alcohol consumption has been high....but he is talking to us about it!!! We are treating him as an adult and are making some suggestions with the full recognition that he has to find the best way himself. I have some concerns of course but this is the first time ever that he has talked about wanting it himself without being forced into it. I am really looking forward to visiting him!