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I've been on here for awhile, checking in from time to time. When I first became a member many of you helped me quite a bit to get by. Also, a few of you were right on with a diagnosis of Asperger's even though I'd been told my son's whole life that it wasn't likely. At his last hospitalization earlier this year, his psychologist actually felt he was Aspie right off and did the full evaluation. This doesn't change his other mental health issues, but I feel vindicated lol. So, I'm back. I want to start by saying that I'm not really an emotional person, which I think is part of the problem. Recently, the school has recommended that my son be placed in a mental health residential treatment facility (not a group home). I want to be clear, I do feel that this is best. My son is going to be 14 and he doesn't leave the house, he won't do school work, and he can't cope with his emotions and different situations. Usually, once I make a decision, it's made and I'm at peace with it. However, I'm a mess. It doesn't help that we had to go to the county meeting with SPOA who then approves the recommendation (which was already done). We then have to wait for the PAC committee to convene to approve my son for residential mental health treatment. This whole process from start to actual placement won't happen until around the first of the new year. This is so long and it's tortuous for both of us (as we needed my son's permission for approval). I'm really taking this hard. I feel that it's the anticipation that is truly hard. Not that I want to get rid of my son...but he needs help and if the sacrifice of being in residential treatment for 9 months to a year is going to bring him out the other side a functioning, productive child with the ability to cope with different situations outside our house, then that's what I'll do. But, one day I'm crying for no reason, I'm depressed. Other days I'm OK. Other parts of my life are suffering. Any support, advise, guidance would be appreciated .
MK
I've been on here for awhile, checking in from time to time. When I first became a member many of you helped me quite a bit to get by. Also, a few of you were right on with a diagnosis of Asperger's even though I'd been told my son's whole life that it wasn't likely. At his last hospitalization earlier this year, his psychologist actually felt he was Aspie right off and did the full evaluation. This doesn't change his other mental health issues, but I feel vindicated lol. So, I'm back. I want to start by saying that I'm not really an emotional person, which I think is part of the problem. Recently, the school has recommended that my son be placed in a mental health residential treatment facility (not a group home). I want to be clear, I do feel that this is best. My son is going to be 14 and he doesn't leave the house, he won't do school work, and he can't cope with his emotions and different situations. Usually, once I make a decision, it's made and I'm at peace with it. However, I'm a mess. It doesn't help that we had to go to the county meeting with SPOA who then approves the recommendation (which was already done). We then have to wait for the PAC committee to convene to approve my son for residential mental health treatment. This whole process from start to actual placement won't happen until around the first of the new year. This is so long and it's tortuous for both of us (as we needed my son's permission for approval). I'm really taking this hard. I feel that it's the anticipation that is truly hard. Not that I want to get rid of my son...but he needs help and if the sacrifice of being in residential treatment for 9 months to a year is going to bring him out the other side a functioning, productive child with the ability to cope with different situations outside our house, then that's what I'll do. But, one day I'm crying for no reason, I'm depressed. Other days I'm OK. Other parts of my life are suffering. Any support, advise, guidance would be appreciated .
MK