Dun Haddit
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Absolutely NOTHING has worked as a consequence for bad behavior. We started assigning sentences regarding certain behaviors and the amount depends on what happened, or mostly, how often the same behavior is repeated.
Our son is a couple years away from an official antisocial personality disorder diagnosis. His psychiatrist said no one would accept that diagnosis for a child, regardless of the things he has done.
We received a call from CPS that our youngest son was always hungry and never brought lunches to school. AFTER the investigation was closed as unfounded, we discovered our son was stealing his little brother's food while walking him to the bus. Neither he or his twin sister admitted this to us or the social worker.
When I found out, I called the social worker and told her about it. Our son knew I had called them, so for retribution, he or someone on his behalf called CPS to report we were starving him. During the previous incident, I was constantly finding his own uneaten lunches stuffed in his closet, under his bed, in the dresser, etc. I would always take pictures, so when the same social worker came, I was able to show her that he was getting lunch, he wasn't eating it - because he was full from stealing his brother's! That was closed unfounded.
We started making him write sentences about not stealing and how he hurt his brother. Within a few days, refusing to do them, he wasn't allowed tv or even to play with his siblings (they were often afraid of him). He threatened to call the police claiming we were a using him. I tossed him the phone, but he didn't touch it, so I dialed 911 and handed it back to him. The fit he threw was priceless and he hung up the phone.
When they called back, I explained what happened. Since he was not committed, when he spoke to dispatcher, he said we were beating him. The officer that showed up asked to see the marks/bruises and he hesitated then claimed he didn't want to pull his pants down because he had on dirty underwear. The Deputy told him to drop his pants, and, no marks. We had 3 additional visits from them because if his behavior.
Up to speed, we are 3 weeks into his new school year, first week for his siblings, when I get a call from the principal of the youngests' school. She said CPS was talking to the twins. We had no clue what was going on because there had been no issues with the exception of Friday if his first week back.
I was closing in on 2weeks post-op for ovary/tumor removal. I was unable to take any pain medications because he got out at noon that day, and was warned they counted towards DUI if driving with them in my system. I waited for half an hour at the designated pick up. I drove to the deserted school and waited another half hour. My husband was calling any number he had for the school, nobody is answering.
Unable to sit any longer with the pain and complications during the surgery, I drove home, my husband left work early, and half hour later, our son calls. I went off on him out if both pain and frustration. His immediate response to everything (at 13 yo) is to immediate start crying. He lied and said he had been talking to friends and lost track of time....even though he is to immediate go to pick up site as soon as school is out.
By the time my husband gets there, our son was waiting in the vp's office, now saying he was talking with his counselor. We knew this was a lie because almost all the staff had left by 1 since school ended at noon. The vp happened to be there for another reason. My husband reminded our son that if he caused me any problems during my recuperation, he would have to write sentences.
CPS was speaking with the twins because our son, or someone on his behalf, reported we make him wrote sentences for consequences and force him to eat quinoa.
WTH????
I was interviewed for 2 hours. Our therapist spoke with the social worker for more than an hour. I'm vilified and treated as if I'm an evil taskmaster, even though we've had several false accusations by him and the therapist told her he is a pathological liar and a master manipulator.
When I told his psychiatrist that the social worked insinuated I was driving the children too hard, she about flipped her lid.
So, if you use sentences as consequence and even think about adding quinoa to your meal menus, think twice!
The social worker has obviously never come across a family that has 3 boys with bi-polar, one with aspergers, too, and this one, the budding psychopath. We know we sound crazy just describing a fraction of the behaviors, because we know people would never believe a 12yo (at the time) would laugh while using his bunk bed for leverage to hold himself so he could stomp on his brother.
Or 'accidentally' bite his youngest brother while playing, even though ALL his siblings were screaming the same thing, that he knocked him down, pinned him on his stomach then but his back. Another tear soaked sob fest about he was playing and he must have accidentally did it.
She suggested I take a patenting class. I wanted to suggest she take a reality check. Every case was cause by or initiated by this child and his school, doctors and the court have documentation proving he lies without though of consequence or care about who is hurt in the process. Our tax money now funds pitchfork and torch bearing witch hunts.
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Our son is a couple years away from an official antisocial personality disorder diagnosis. His psychiatrist said no one would accept that diagnosis for a child, regardless of the things he has done.
We received a call from CPS that our youngest son was always hungry and never brought lunches to school. AFTER the investigation was closed as unfounded, we discovered our son was stealing his little brother's food while walking him to the bus. Neither he or his twin sister admitted this to us or the social worker.
When I found out, I called the social worker and told her about it. Our son knew I had called them, so for retribution, he or someone on his behalf called CPS to report we were starving him. During the previous incident, I was constantly finding his own uneaten lunches stuffed in his closet, under his bed, in the dresser, etc. I would always take pictures, so when the same social worker came, I was able to show her that he was getting lunch, he wasn't eating it - because he was full from stealing his brother's! That was closed unfounded.
We started making him write sentences about not stealing and how he hurt his brother. Within a few days, refusing to do them, he wasn't allowed tv or even to play with his siblings (they were often afraid of him). He threatened to call the police claiming we were a using him. I tossed him the phone, but he didn't touch it, so I dialed 911 and handed it back to him. The fit he threw was priceless and he hung up the phone.
When they called back, I explained what happened. Since he was not committed, when he spoke to dispatcher, he said we were beating him. The officer that showed up asked to see the marks/bruises and he hesitated then claimed he didn't want to pull his pants down because he had on dirty underwear. The Deputy told him to drop his pants, and, no marks. We had 3 additional visits from them because if his behavior.
Up to speed, we are 3 weeks into his new school year, first week for his siblings, when I get a call from the principal of the youngests' school. She said CPS was talking to the twins. We had no clue what was going on because there had been no issues with the exception of Friday if his first week back.
I was closing in on 2weeks post-op for ovary/tumor removal. I was unable to take any pain medications because he got out at noon that day, and was warned they counted towards DUI if driving with them in my system. I waited for half an hour at the designated pick up. I drove to the deserted school and waited another half hour. My husband was calling any number he had for the school, nobody is answering.
Unable to sit any longer with the pain and complications during the surgery, I drove home, my husband left work early, and half hour later, our son calls. I went off on him out if both pain and frustration. His immediate response to everything (at 13 yo) is to immediate start crying. He lied and said he had been talking to friends and lost track of time....even though he is to immediate go to pick up site as soon as school is out.
By the time my husband gets there, our son was waiting in the vp's office, now saying he was talking with his counselor. We knew this was a lie because almost all the staff had left by 1 since school ended at noon. The vp happened to be there for another reason. My husband reminded our son that if he caused me any problems during my recuperation, he would have to write sentences.
CPS was speaking with the twins because our son, or someone on his behalf, reported we make him wrote sentences for consequences and force him to eat quinoa.
WTH????
I was interviewed for 2 hours. Our therapist spoke with the social worker for more than an hour. I'm vilified and treated as if I'm an evil taskmaster, even though we've had several false accusations by him and the therapist told her he is a pathological liar and a master manipulator.
When I told his psychiatrist that the social worked insinuated I was driving the children too hard, she about flipped her lid.
So, if you use sentences as consequence and even think about adding quinoa to your meal menus, think twice!
The social worker has obviously never come across a family that has 3 boys with bi-polar, one with aspergers, too, and this one, the budding psychopath. We know we sound crazy just describing a fraction of the behaviors, because we know people would never believe a 12yo (at the time) would laugh while using his bunk bed for leverage to hold himself so he could stomp on his brother.
Or 'accidentally' bite his youngest brother while playing, even though ALL his siblings were screaming the same thing, that he knocked him down, pinned him on his stomach then but his back. Another tear soaked sob fest about he was playing and he must have accidentally did it.
She suggested I take a patenting class. I wanted to suggest she take a reality check. Every case was cause by or initiated by this child and his school, doctors and the court have documentation proving he lies without though of consequence or care about who is hurt in the process. Our tax money now funds pitchfork and torch bearing witch hunts.
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