BusynMember
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Wow. I can't stop Jumper from going away to school, but her experience this weekend was kind of a jolt to my sensitive nervous system.
Jumper and three school friends drove to Oshkosh Wisconsin to visit a college friend who played basketball with Jumper. It was for her birthday. She lives in a dorm. I was a little nevous, but the kids she was going with are such straight arrow kids I figured, it made no sense to stop her. The girl she was going to visit is also a straight walker, even though she's in college. Jumper texted me often and they went out to eat at Red Robin one day and then had a talk session, but went to bed early then they went to a mall in Appleton the next day then s he came home. Jumper came in looking normal and when I asked if she saw any drug use or drinking, etc. she said, "Oh, yeah, but we stayed away." Then she said something that gave me the creeps, especially since I read about a lot of kids who start drug use in college.
She told me Oshkosh was boring and that if you don't like to party there is absolutely nothing to do. I asked her wh at K. did and she just said, "Oh, there are a few kids who hang out together and don't party, but there were kids going out in an ice storm just to walk to some party." She said K. was in the minority. She said she had no interest in going to college there.
At least the LaCrosse dorm in the tech school has supervision and rules!!!!
Jumper has always been trusthworthy, but hearing this stuff scares me. I have to let her go, but it still scares me, even though Jumper is pretty scornful of people who drink or smoke pot, and that's pretty tame. She knows people who does it, but thinks it's "dumb." She does seem attracted to the kids who don't party and don't do anything. She never goes to parties at all.
Of course I still have PTSD from Julie But Julie didn't have to go to college to use drugs. But college seems just one partyfest where there is no adult to answer to and a lot of irresponsible teens getting into trouble.
Howeever, I do know not all kids get into trouble. I have twin nieces who have been at a school in Iowa for almost four years already and they have never been in any trouble and are mostly just getting really good grades an d studying hard.
Thanks God Jumper has no interest in a sorority. Not only do I personally find the exclusionism offensive, but I do know there is a lot of drinking and unprotected sex going on in the house they YOU have to pay a ton for your daughter to live in.
I am not really THAT worried about Jumper. She doesn't have that wild, rebellious personality. But it does sort of give me the creeps. Makes me wish she'd go to STevens Point, if she could get in, and live at home...lol. The first thing she said when she got home was, "I'll be terrible when I go away. I'll miss you all so badly." So I guess for now it's a good thing
Jumper and three school friends drove to Oshkosh Wisconsin to visit a college friend who played basketball with Jumper. It was for her birthday. She lives in a dorm. I was a little nevous, but the kids she was going with are such straight arrow kids I figured, it made no sense to stop her. The girl she was going to visit is also a straight walker, even though she's in college. Jumper texted me often and they went out to eat at Red Robin one day and then had a talk session, but went to bed early then they went to a mall in Appleton the next day then s he came home. Jumper came in looking normal and when I asked if she saw any drug use or drinking, etc. she said, "Oh, yeah, but we stayed away." Then she said something that gave me the creeps, especially since I read about a lot of kids who start drug use in college.
She told me Oshkosh was boring and that if you don't like to party there is absolutely nothing to do. I asked her wh at K. did and she just said, "Oh, there are a few kids who hang out together and don't party, but there were kids going out in an ice storm just to walk to some party." She said K. was in the minority. She said she had no interest in going to college there.
At least the LaCrosse dorm in the tech school has supervision and rules!!!!
Jumper has always been trusthworthy, but hearing this stuff scares me. I have to let her go, but it still scares me, even though Jumper is pretty scornful of people who drink or smoke pot, and that's pretty tame. She knows people who does it, but thinks it's "dumb." She does seem attracted to the kids who don't party and don't do anything. She never goes to parties at all.
Of course I still have PTSD from Julie But Julie didn't have to go to college to use drugs. But college seems just one partyfest where there is no adult to answer to and a lot of irresponsible teens getting into trouble.
Howeever, I do know not all kids get into trouble. I have twin nieces who have been at a school in Iowa for almost four years already and they have never been in any trouble and are mostly just getting really good grades an d studying hard.
Thanks God Jumper has no interest in a sorority. Not only do I personally find the exclusionism offensive, but I do know there is a lot of drinking and unprotected sex going on in the house they YOU have to pay a ton for your daughter to live in.
I am not really THAT worried about Jumper. She doesn't have that wild, rebellious personality. But it does sort of give me the creeps. Makes me wish she'd go to STevens Point, if she could get in, and live at home...lol. The first thing she said when she got home was, "I'll be terrible when I go away. I'll miss you all so badly." So I guess for now it's a good thing