I've been lurking here for a long time as we have been dealing with our son who takes full advantage of us every chance he can get. I would like to go NC as soon as this latest "episode" is over and want to get some advice. Please do not tell me about how we are causing this as I am fully aware for one and secondly, I did not raise these children. My husband has dementia and CTE from playing soccer and I have cancer and I have tried to keep some contact with one of his kids for his sake. You can read the signature but basically the kid has not done as much as get his dad (or me) a card EVER and we have funded his many trips to NYC and elsewhere only to have him spring on us at the last moment that he has changed dates or is bringing a friend or can't make it. He will help us out if I am ill but only if we pay him handsomely. This last time he came to see us in NYC and sprung on us the day before that he was bringing his dog. We have two dogs and cannot have another in our building or we will get evicted. He left the dog with us and went to see a girl in CA. My friend said she will watch him until today and I told him she will not until he bought a return ticket. He didn't and still gave the dog to her. Today we have to get the poor thing back and my son is supposed to come back from CA to get her. We are hiding the dog in our apartment for a day but I told him no more than that and WE bought his ticket to come back tomorrow. After harassing the dickens out of him to pay me back for the ticket he was nasty to me regardless of everything we do for him - including risking out apartment. Most likely he will "miss his flight" again and we will be stuck with this poor animal that we canNOT have here. Even if he makes it back, I cannot take this anymore. He causes my husband and I to fight and he knows his dad is ill and makes bad decisions and takes full advantage of it when I am conveniently not around - for example - taking the dog to my friends house BEFORE he had a return ticket, as I insisted. I have been trying for years to keep contact with at least one of his children for his sake but honestly it has been a complete lost cause and is a one way relationship. He uses us to come to NYC and have a place to sleep, seeing us 10% of the time to have expensive dinners and only sees us when we foot the bill even though he has plenty of money. I can understand that he doesn't give a crap about his step mom but he NEVER asks about his dad or just says "hello" like I have BEGGED him to. This is now making us crazy and, as you can imagine, is coming at a very bad time as my husband and I both become more ill - we are both terminal. Please help. EDIT: We are going to be left with a decision to put an innocent animal in a shelter tomorrow if my son doesn't show up to get her or risk being evicted. Most of the time he does not show up. I have been researching NO KILL shelters just in case and am horrified to be left with this decision I am going to call places today but am not sure if they will take her even if she has tags. I've never had to do this.