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Yet another "First" for Mr. McWeedyBrain (NOT!)
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<blockquote data-quote="everywoman" data-source="post: 49264" data-attributes="member: 1436"><p>While I certainly understand your wanting to wait all this out, I would caution against waiting until he is 18 and hope it gets better. </p><p></p><p>First, if he is drinking and driving or high and driving and has an accident, he is your responsibility financially. Recently a young person in my community had an accident where a man was seriously injured. Her family has lost their home and everything they owned. </p><p></p><p>Second, once he is an adult, any and all charges stand, forever....not good for future job prospects...</p><p>Have you tried filing a chins or pins (child in need of services)? Or filing charges as an incorrigible child. When my difficult child was 17, he was out of control one night. He came after husband and husband pushed him down. PCdaughter got scared and called the cops. When they came to the house, difficult child was told he had two choices, obey our rules or leave. He chose to leave. We let him go.</p><p></p><p>Third, waiting this out seems to be getting rather dangerous. You posted last week that he came home very intoxicated from alcohol. I have known several young people who have ended up in intensive care because of their choice to drink excessively. </p><p></p><p>Finally, you have a younger child to worry about. I know she is seems to be okay right now, but I can guarentee that this turmoil in the house is effecting her much worse than you think. If he is caught using anything in your home, and if the cops will be watching (and they will), you risk losing her for exposing her to his shananigans. My pcdaughter is 17 and can't wait to move out because difficult child is still at home. She was so much happier when he was not here. I've have seen her change tremendously since his dad allowed him to come back home against my wishes.</p><p></p><p>It may be time to make some major decisions. Now he is making choices to ride with others who are using. Sometimes we just have to be the bad guy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="everywoman, post: 49264, member: 1436"] While I certainly understand your wanting to wait all this out, I would caution against waiting until he is 18 and hope it gets better. First, if he is drinking and driving or high and driving and has an accident, he is your responsibility financially. Recently a young person in my community had an accident where a man was seriously injured. Her family has lost their home and everything they owned. Second, once he is an adult, any and all charges stand, forever....not good for future job prospects... Have you tried filing a chins or pins (child in need of services)? Or filing charges as an incorrigible child. When my difficult child was 17, he was out of control one night. He came after husband and husband pushed him down. PCdaughter got scared and called the cops. When they came to the house, difficult child was told he had two choices, obey our rules or leave. He chose to leave. We let him go. Third, waiting this out seems to be getting rather dangerous. You posted last week that he came home very intoxicated from alcohol. I have known several young people who have ended up in intensive care because of their choice to drink excessively. Finally, you have a younger child to worry about. I know she is seems to be okay right now, but I can guarentee that this turmoil in the house is effecting her much worse than you think. If he is caught using anything in your home, and if the cops will be watching (and they will), you risk losing her for exposing her to his shananigans. My pcdaughter is 17 and can't wait to move out because difficult child is still at home. She was so much happier when he was not here. I've have seen her change tremendously since his dad allowed him to come back home against my wishes. It may be time to make some major decisions. Now he is making choices to ride with others who are using. Sometimes we just have to be the bad guy. [/QUOTE]
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