That is the one thing everyone told me after I kicked my son out. I've tried reaching out to him to let him know I still love him and care. Unfortunately the drugs have completely changed his personality and he cares nothing about me. His personality has drastically changed and he is just mean and hateful, selfish and can't be bothered by a mama who cares. It's gut wrenching. I have no clue where he is, who he is staying with, what he is doing. He wants me to know NOTHING. I'm ok with that but just wish once a week he could send me a text to let me know he is ok. His mind is so messed up on drugs - last time I called him he was agitated that I called and "can't talk, with someone, gotta go". I've been detaching but still, he is my only child and all the family I have. I can't even check to see if he is ok without him blowing a fuse. Is this classic behavior of a drug addict? I am trying to stay focused on my job. My son is 23, turning 24 in April next year. I am worried his drug use has escalated and he is running with a bad crowd. He was lying to me about everything, I think he is lying to friends, could be stealing, manipulating people to get what he wants to support his habit. He stays high constantly. Last time I talked to him he was lying to me and slurring his words. I'm so scared I'm going to get that horrible call from police. He is driving a car with a suspended license and no insurance. His intelligence level seems to be that of about a 13 year old. After getting calls in the past "Mom, I've been arrested and they are taking me to jail" to "Mom, my head is bleeding we got into a bad accident" and "This is the Sheriff's department we have your son in custody..." I live with the constant nagging stomach ache that something bad will happen. I truly think my son need psychiatric help of some sort. His thinking since age 19 has been so irrational and immature. The risks he takes, he has no idea of the consequences. When he gets in trouble it's everyone elses fault, he did nothing wrong. I thought about going to an Al-Anon or Narc-Anon meeting but honestly, this forum is easier for me for now. How do all of you deal with not knowing where they are and what they are doing?