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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 711583" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>RN, i applaud you for your bravery. And courage. And wisdom.</p><p></p><p>For years I have posted on here, feeling like a bad guy, telling parents who want to see real change to do the hardest thing ever and give them emotional support if they do right but cut the money, the rent, the sadness for their anxiety and depression which is often to manipulate you so that you feel you have to take care of them or they may kill themselves. I do not get many likes or stars because some parents dont want to hear it or dont think its true, at least not for their drug user, but it usually is unless a child has other problem, real disabilities...then seeking community help in my opinion is best. I have done that too with autistic son. That also worked.</p><p></p><p>Im sure many feel my posts are callous. But i have been on this site 15 years and read all the manipulation of drug users of their parents. And the adult childs chronic stagnation, dependence and continied bad behavior.</p><p></p><p>I have also seen that in 15 years 90% or more of our kids who bring us here do not grow up until we TOTALLY cut the money, the "hand up" which they take advantage of and let them go,o as far as monetary support. And almost all do not live with us.</p><p></p><p>Yes, I 0ften feel like the grinch, but this is a pattern I have seen all these years.Like my daughter, like Patriots Girls daughter, like Kathys awesome daughter, like COMs son, like so many kids who grow up...these people are different than typical adults. They abuse our loving compassion and fear for them. They take advantage of us and keep using and often lying about it, like my daughter and her sad stories until we said " no more. You are on your own." And she quit after a few months of no monetary help.</p><p></p><p>Almost every time i think a kid is still using here, a post eventually appears that says he is. Or she. Drug users lie and lie and then some. And tell us they have anxiety, depression, anything to keep us in the dark and sad for them. Anything to keep us pitying them. Anything to do what they want and live off us as they lie to us.y daughter tricked a psychiatrist into saying sje had bipolar. She is clean for so long now and doesnt have bipolar. She fooled us and her doctprs. Drug addicts have to be good actors. They are.</p><p></p><p>I wont make many friends but will continue to do what I feel is responsible...tell the truth as I have read it for fifteen years for those who post here and also the lurkers. I know its not what people want to hear, but I am seriously trying to give good advice.</p><p></p><p>I like your sons counselor. She gets it.</p><p></p><p>Tons of blessings.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 711583, member: 1550"] RN, i applaud you for your bravery. And courage. And wisdom. For years I have posted on here, feeling like a bad guy, telling parents who want to see real change to do the hardest thing ever and give them emotional support if they do right but cut the money, the rent, the sadness for their anxiety and depression which is often to manipulate you so that you feel you have to take care of them or they may kill themselves. I do not get many likes or stars because some parents dont want to hear it or dont think its true, at least not for their drug user, but it usually is unless a child has other problem, real disabilities...then seeking community help in my opinion is best. I have done that too with autistic son. That also worked. Im sure many feel my posts are callous. But i have been on this site 15 years and read all the manipulation of drug users of their parents. And the adult childs chronic stagnation, dependence and continied bad behavior. I have also seen that in 15 years 90% or more of our kids who bring us here do not grow up until we TOTALLY cut the money, the "hand up" which they take advantage of and let them go,o as far as monetary support. And almost all do not live with us. Yes, I 0ften feel like the grinch, but this is a pattern I have seen all these years.Like my daughter, like Patriots Girls daughter, like Kathys awesome daughter, like COMs son, like so many kids who grow up...these people are different than typical adults. They abuse our loving compassion and fear for them. They take advantage of us and keep using and often lying about it, like my daughter and her sad stories until we said " no more. You are on your own." And she quit after a few months of no monetary help. Almost every time i think a kid is still using here, a post eventually appears that says he is. Or she. Drug users lie and lie and then some. And tell us they have anxiety, depression, anything to keep us in the dark and sad for them. Anything to keep us pitying them. Anything to do what they want and live off us as they lie to us.y daughter tricked a psychiatrist into saying sje had bipolar. She is clean for so long now and doesnt have bipolar. She fooled us and her doctprs. Drug addicts have to be good actors. They are. I wont make many friends but will continue to do what I feel is responsible...tell the truth as I have read it for fifteen years for those who post here and also the lurkers. I know its not what people want to hear, but I am seriously trying to give good advice. I like your sons counselor. She gets it. Tons of blessings. [/QUOTE]
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