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You fill the bill. Then, who am I?
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 680981" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I went by where my son is staying leaving a message with the home owner to ask that he call me.</p><p></p><p>When he called I started off with asking if he wanted to talk about working something out about living in the apartment. We agreed he would call tomorrow and we would talk about it.</p><p></p><p>I mentioned that we had found his missing ten dollars. He had misplaced it and as much as accused M of being responsible. I mentioned that M had also been troubled because he had asked for 3 quarters from his bag, and scooped out more.</p><p></p><p>My son said: If you want to demonize me, let's cut this short. Or something like that.</p><p></p><p>I responded: It is not demonizing you to tell you how something feels about a specific interaction, to hold you responsible so that you can pay attention to and change what you decide needs changing. With communication, is the only way we can learn to do better and for our relationship to be better. Oh. OK. He said.</p><p></p><p>I feel so much better.</p><p></p><p>My son is the original "fill the bill." Actually, in my life. When I give up on him, I give up on myself. I give up on my life. When I get back in the ring, I feel life has meaning and my life has purpose. The problem is I hit walls very frequently and very often. And I crash.</p><p></p><p>How to change? I will try.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 680981, member: 18958"] I went by where my son is staying leaving a message with the home owner to ask that he call me. When he called I started off with asking if he wanted to talk about working something out about living in the apartment. We agreed he would call tomorrow and we would talk about it. I mentioned that we had found his missing ten dollars. He had misplaced it and as much as accused M of being responsible. I mentioned that M had also been troubled because he had asked for 3 quarters from his bag, and scooped out more. My son said: If you want to demonize me, let's cut this short. Or something like that. I responded: It is not demonizing you to tell you how something feels about a specific interaction, to hold you responsible so that you can pay attention to and change what you decide needs changing. With communication, is the only way we can learn to do better and for our relationship to be better. Oh. OK. He said. I feel so much better. My son is the original "fill the bill." Actually, in my life. When I give up on him, I give up on myself. I give up on my life. When I get back in the ring, I feel life has meaning and my life has purpose. The problem is I hit walls very frequently and very often. And I crash. How to change? I will try. COPA [/QUOTE]
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